Intimate Relationships Exam 5
Which personality variable is most associated with jealousy? p. 318, ppt
Neuroticism
What is the foolproof method for detecting humans lying?
there isn't one
Are apologies helpful in forgiveness? p. 336
yes but only if the apology is sincere
According to the Deception video, by what age have we learned to lie?
4 years old
According to the research of DePaulo, what percentage of people report telling NO lies in the previous week? p. 327-328
5%
Which attachment style is least related to jealousy? p. 318, ppt
Dismissing style of attachment
What is reactive jealousy? How does it differ from suspicious jealousy? p. 316, ppt
Reactive- when someone becomes aware of an actual threat to a valued relationship Suspicious- when one's partner has not misbehaved and one's suspicions do not fit the facts at hand
Who makes us jealous? p. 318, ppt
Romantic rivals with a high mate value who make us look bad by comparison
What is forgiveness? What does it involve doing? p. 335
a decision to give up your perceived or actual right to get even with, or hold in debt, someone who has wronged you, involves acknowledging harmful conduct and the harmed partner extends undeserved mercy
If someone wants their betrayal to do the least harm to the relationship, they should do what? p. 333-335.)
acknowledging that the betrayal was harmful and asking for forgiveness
What are the characteristics of the "avoiders," "hostiles," "validators," and "volatiles?" p. 356-358
avoiders- mild, rarely argue, dislike confrontation hostiles- too much criticism, contempt, defensiveness, withdrawal validators- polite fighters, calm, understanding volatiles- frequent passionate arguments
What are microexpressions?
brief flashes of truth in facial expressions
What are coercion, legitimate, referent, expertise power? p. 368-369
coercion- the ability to bestow punishment on someone else legitimate- partners believe they have a reasonable right to tell the other what to do, and the partner has an obligation to comply referent- when a partner adores you and wishes to do what you want because it connects them to you expertise- when a partner recognizes your superiors knowledge and experience and are influenced by you because you know more than they do
Those who lie to others can begin to perceive the recipients of the lies as less honest and trustworthy. This is called .... p. 328
deceiver's distrust
In forced choice questions, women report they would react more to the threat of ______ infidelity and men report they would react more to the threat of ______ infidelity. p. 321
emotional, sexual
What is attributional conflict? p. 347
fighting over whose explanation is right and whose account is wrong
What did Paul Eckman conclude from his research in New Guinea?
human expressions are evolutionary
What are social allergies? p. 346
hypersensitive reactions of disgust that seem out of proportion due to repeated exposure of small recurring nuisances
What most often gives away liars? p. 330
information from others, physical evidence, or confession
Which attachment style is most commonly associated with conflict? p. 343-344
insecure attachment styles
What are "integrative agreement" and "structural improvement?" p. 359
integrative- satisfy both partners original goals and aspirations through creativity and flexibility structural- partners get what they want, learn and grow to make desirable changes to their relationship, may result from turmoil
How are women judged when they are in positions of leadership? p. 370
more harshly than a man would be when straightforwardly telling others what to do
What is intimate terrorism? How does it differ from situational couple violence? p. 381
one partner uses violence as a tool to control and oppress the other, it is not tied to specific arguments and only one partner is being violent
What are dialectics? Be familiar with the different kinds of dialectics. p. 341-342.
opposing motivations in relationships that can never be satisfied because they contradict each other, personal autonomy and connection to others, independence and interdependence, openness and closedness, stability and change, integration and separation
Love is an example of which type of resource? What is a particularistic resource? p. 370
particularistic- resources valuable in some situations but not in others, may confer power to their owner only in certain relationships
Which theory views male jealousy as springing from the importance of insuring that children are their biological offspring? p. 319-320
paternity uncertainty theory
Who is most likely to get away with a lie? p. 330
people in an intimate relationship lying to their partner
What are different technologies used for lie detection?
polygraph, layered voice analysis, thermal imaging machine, laser doppler biometer
What is the Speaker-Listener Technique, and how does it work? p. 361-362
provides structure for calm and clear communication through interrupting the cycle of misperception and promoting active listening
What are illegitimate demands? With which phase of conflict are they associated? p. 345-346
requests that seem unjust because they exceed the normal expectations partners have for each other, beginning stage...rebuff
From an interdependency perspective, power is based on what? p. 368
resources each partner controls
What type of person is most likely to forgive? p. 336
secure attachment styles
Two important strategies for overcoming unwanted jealousy are self-reliance and .....? p. 326.
self-bolstering
What are constructive responses to betrayal? p. 331
sincerely apologize and forgive
Structural improvement, integrative agreements, compromise, and domination are associated with which stage of conflict? p. 350
termination
What is social power? p. 365
the ability to influence behavior of others and resist their influence on us
How does spouses' shared decision making tend to affect their marriage and the likelihood of divorce? p. 378
the more equal the decision making, the happier the couple and the lower the likelihood of divorce
Which factors have been found to influence the tendency of some women to stay in abusive relationships? p. 390-391
they don't think they will be better off if they go, romantic norms encourage them to forgive and forget, they ask themselves why they made him angry or why they were in the wrong place at the wrong time, economic instability, cost of leaving is too high, fear of greater violence if they leave
Why women are better at understanding nonverbal behavior than men are? p. 374-375
they gain valuable information that helps them be better partners and that can then increase their influence over men..-Women are generally more accurate judges of others emotions and meaning than men are
Which behaviors are useful in mastering anger? p. 348
think differently and take a break from the situation to calm down
With regard to conflict, John Gottman advises men who want their marriages to work to do what? p. 360
try not to avoid conflict
According to deception experts, what is a main reason that people are not very good at detecting lies?
we want to believe what people tell us
