Violence in Relationships

*Just Melvin Video

Children obey your parents onto all things. If you train up a child in the way they should go and when they are old they will not turn from it. Victims begins to think behavior is normal Coping mechanism: Self harm, numerous suicide attempts, acted as if nothing happened

Definition of Rape

Forced Sexual Intercourse oral or anal sex

Victims rights and Compensation

The right to be heard and participate in criminal justice proceedings The right to apply for compensation Victim compensation programs - money paid from a public fund to innocent victims to enable them to recoup some their financial The right to restitution from the offender The right to protection from intimidation and harassment

*Thomas Killman 5 Ways of addressing conflict

Accommodation - Surrender one owns needs and wishes to accommodate the other part Avoidance - Post pone conflict by ignoring it or changing the subject Collaboration - work together to find a mutually beneficial solution. Compromise - Bring the problem into the open and have the third person present Competition - Assert ones viewpoint at the potential expense of another it can be useful when achieving ones objectives out weighs one's concern for relationship.

*Jackson Katz Bystander Approach

Bystander Approach focuses on young women not as victims or potential targets of harassment, rape, and abuse, but as empowered bystanders who can support abused peers and confront abusive ones. It is a strategy to change social norms in peer cultures at all levels.

Risk Factors that Lead to School Violence pg. 130

Character risks - Birth complications result in brain dysfunction that could lead to school failure and violent behavior. Underdeveloped Mental Abilities - children who do more poorly on school, are more likely too top attending school altogether. Presence of early aggressive behaviors - children who are aggressive and violent in adolescence most often exhibit the same kind of behavior later in life. Family relationships and influences - Children of aggressive punish more frequently but inconsistently and ineffectively. Exposure to violence and victimization - exposure to violence is linked to with increased risk of perpertrating violence Role of media and its impact on violence - kids are exposed to tons of violent acts from media The general influence of our culture - Our culture is made up of many influences and seductions leading to temptations of the worst sort, especially for the emotionally insecure teen. The schools - Overcrowding, High student to teacher ratios, insufficient curricular and course relevance, low student academic achievement and apathy, poor facility design and portals buildings that increase isolation.

*Theories explaining Sexual assault/Rape

Gender inequality - Rape and the fear of rape enable men to assert their power over women and maintaining the existing system of gender stratification Pornography - Sexism male dominance is celebrated and depicted in pornographic material Cultural Spillover - Aspects of the culture which indirectly serve to legitimize rape; rape myths Social Disorganization - Argues that crime and deviance reflect conditions that disrupt the integrity of local communities and weaken the regulatory power of social norms.

Locus, healthy control concepts

Healthy Locus - Good boundaries, refuse to accept responsibility. Locus - are victims who see themselves as responsible for more than than they actually are External Locust - See outside factors as responsible. Blame others.

Babcock and Dutton

Insecure attachment patterns are associated with intimate partner violence. Females fear of abandonment and rejection may be a risk factor for becoming a victim of violence

Types of Childhood Aggression/Learning to be violent

Instrumental Agression - Intended to achieve a goal Reactive Aggression - Provoked

Conflict Wheel Same Sex Violence

Needs Emotions - "fuel" Communicate Structure History Values

*Power and Control Wheel

Patterns of intentional acts done by men to women. By naming power differences we can provide advocacy and support to victims. Sections on the power and control wheel include, Intimidation, Emotional Abuse, Isolation, Blaming, Using children, Economic Abuse, Male privilege, Coercion and Threats

Physical, Sexual, Emotional, Neglect (types of abuse)

Physical - Is the non-accidental affliction of physical injury to a child. Thee abuser is usually a family member. Emotional - Is the rejecting, ignoring, criticizing, isolating, or terrorizing of children all which can erode self esteem. Neglect - The failure to satisfy a childs basic need, can assume many forms. Physical neglect is the failure to provide adequate food, clothing, shelter, or supervision. Failure to satisfy a childs normal emotional needs or behavior that famous kids.

*Bullying three levels - Physical, Emotional, Social

Physical - harm to body or property Emotional - safety (self esteem) Social - "Peer group" "Acceptance Group"

PTSD physical/emotional symptoms

Physical Effects - Eating problems and digestive troubles, Difficulty sleeping, Headaches, Fatigue, Increases heart rate/pounding heart/ heart palpitations, sweating, worsening of existing medical problems, pain, muscle tension, restlessness, shortness of breath Emotional Effects - shame, survival guilt/self balme, fear of losing or going crazy, fear that the trauma will happen again, anxiety, depression, numbness, anger/rage, inability to feel pleasure or joy, feeling alone or abandoned.

*Rollo May - 5 levels of Power

Power to be: Existence must be carried out. must be lived out or violence will result Self affirmation: Cry for recognitions/affirmation "self being" Self Assertion: Power to have a stance. Agression: Violence: range of emotions... explosions... physical

Rape Myths

Rape is sex Woman incite men to rape A victim should forget about rape Rapist are criminal types Men cant be raped A man cant rape his wife Rape only happens to young women It is impossible to sexually assault a man

School Violence

Reasons for violence Social Withdrawal - students who suddenly drop out of school activities may experience feeling of depression, rejection or lack of confidence. Feelings of being alone - Feelings of isolation and not having friends are associated who behave aggressively and violently. Poor family environment Gangs - Youth gangs supports antisocial values and behaviors including extortion, intimidation, and acts of violence Broken abuse

Men as Victims

Significant problem that goes under reported - judgement by male peers, admit to being submissive, if they do report a situation to the police they will be assumed to be the abuser.

*Cycle of Bullying

Starts with a bully Follower - "Henchmen" Supporter - Encourages the bully Passive Supporter - does nothing to stop the bull Disengage onlooker - not interested in what going on Passive defender - Dislikes bully, they dont show open defense Defender - Dislikes bullying and tries to stop it "Breaks cycle"

Generated Risk-Stay leave Relationship

Stay: depression, internalize problems suicide, children taken care of, learning abusive behavior, Basic needs met, becomes numb, lonely, addicted to substance abuse, can physically die, permanent damage. Leave: Depression, emotional problems, suicide, Homeless/cutoff welfare, no transportation, no work, angry children, miss the other parent, abuse themselves, emotionally unstable, Death, stalking.

Stranger and acquaintance Sexual Assault

Stranger - likely to involve more use of force and weapons, more physical harm to the victims. Victims usually resist more and often injured. More likely to seek help and report the attack to the police. Acquaintances - Level of comfort with partners. Image of rape results in labels. use of physical force. Casual dating

*Anger Episode

Trigger - Something evokes an evocative response that is generally emotional Target to anger - Whom the response is directed Appraisal of situation - revenge, unfairness, low frustration tolerance, dictates how you respond Experiences (Physical) - Muscle tension Heart rate increases, clenches teeth. Sensations last 1 minute to 2 hours Expressive patterns - (Nasty Words) "Hurt people, Hurt people" yell, scream, rolling of the eyes. Harbor Grudges "Rumination" - Recalling the event to stay angry, what do i want to get out of it Outcomes - How do you feel after the anger

Reactive Responses to victimization

Victim Offender mediation Victim Assistance Restitution Involvement in restorative justice processes gives victims the opportunity to express their feelings about the offenses and the harm done to them and to contribute their views about what is required to put things right.

Christianity views on battered women

When women marry they must submit to their husbands and be available whenever his sexual desires need to be

Teen dating violence/stats

Dating violence - is the use of physical sexual, emotional, verbal, and financial abuse for the purpose of gaining and maintaining control and power over another in an intimate pr romantic relationship