COM1000 Quiz 9

Arguably one of the more harmful disconfirming messages is ____________ - a form of avoidance in which one person refuses to engage with the other. A. Criticism B. Contempt C. Stonewalling D. Defensiveness

stonewalling

Jim tells Karen that he was just out with the guys, when in reality he went out with a woman he works with. What of type deception did he use? A. An altruistic lie B. An omission C. An equivocation D. A fabrication

A fabrication

With this language, people may show love by performing favors such as caring for each other when they are sick, doing the dishes, making meals, and so on. A. Affirming words B. Quality time C. Acts of service D. Gifts

Acts of service

Edwin has cooked dinner for Mariel. When he asks her how she liked it, she doesn't want to tell him that she didn't. Instead, she tells him, "It was good!" What of deception did she use? A. An omission B. An altruistic lie C. An equivocation D. A fabrication

An altruistic lie

Sarah attacks her partner, Brian, when he comes home late from work. "You only ever think about yourself. I worked hard at making you a hot dinner and now it's cold. You never show me respect." Which of the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" does this illustrate? A. Stonewalling B. Contempt C. Criticism D. Defensiveness

Criticism

Eric responds to his partner's disapproval with counterattacks. "You're calling me messy? You're the one who never cleans up your plates after dinner!" Which of the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" does this illustrate? A. Criticism B. Contempt D. Stonewalling C. Defensiveness

Defensiveness

Abbey tells her friend Mary, "You are so dumb. That was a really stupid thing you did." Which style of expressing conflict did she use? A. Assertion B. Direct aggression C. Nonassertion D. Passive aggression

Direct aggression

Emma and David are on their second date together. They ask each other pleasant questions and are uncritical of each other, even when they don't agree with each other. They talk about their jobs and tell funny stories. What stage are they likely in? A. Integrating B. Intensifying C. Experimenting D. Initiating

Experimenting

When partners decide to spend most of their time apart during the week, but reserve their entire weekends for couple time, they are managing dialectical tension with the tactic called _______________. A. Alternation B. Reframing C. Denial D. Polarization

alternation

A deliberately ambiguous statement with two or more equally plausible meanings is referred to as _____________. A. An omission B. An equivocation C. An altruistic lie D. A fabrication

an equivocation

A type of deception in which one person withholds information that another person deserves to know is referred to as _____________. A. An altruistic lie B. A fabrication C. An omission D. An equivocation

an omission

Directly expressing your needs, thoughts, or feelings in a way that does not attack the other person's dignity is known as _____________. A. Passive aggression B. A directly aggressive message C. Nonassertion D. Being assertive

being assertive

The ___________ stage is likely to involve a wedding, a commitment ceremony, or some other public means of communicating to the world that this is a relationship meant to last. A. Bonding B. Intensifying C. Integrating D. Experimenting

bonding

The conflicting desires for connection and independence are embodied in the _____________ dialectic. A. Predictability-novelty B. Independence-association C. Openness-privacy D. Connection-autonomy

connection-autonomy

Expressions of __________ may be explicit, but more commonly they're expressed nonverbally: by facial nonverbal cues such as sneering and eye-rolling, and by a condescending or mocking tone of voice. A. Defensiveness B. Nonassertion C. Criticism D. Contempt

contempt

Statements that seek to bring about a desired response without asking for it directly are referred to as _____________. A. Omissions B. Altruistic lies C. Equivocations D. Hinting

hinting

When Philippe sends roses to Melanie for Valentine's Day, what love language is he using? A. Gifts B. Affirming words C. Quality time D. Acts of service

Gifts

Alexander and Evelyn post pictures of themselves together on Facebook. They now move in many of the same social circles, have begun to share possessions, and they even have their own "song." What stage are they likely in? A. Initiating B. Intensifying C. Experimenting D. Integrating

Integrating

The inability or unwillingness to express thoughts or feelings in a conflict is known as _____________. A. Nonassertion B. Passive aggression C. Being assertive D. A directly aggressive message

nonassertion

By engaging in _______________, some people show love by completing tasks together, talking, or engaging in some other mutually enjoyable activity. A. Gifts B. Acts of service C. Quality time D. Affirming words

quality time

By definition, ___________ requires that we express ourselves personally through physical contact, shared experiences, intellectual sharing, and emotional disclosures. A. Similarity B. Friendship C. Romantic intimacy D. Family closeness

romantic intimacy

Sophia shares most things with her partner, Jack. However, there are times when Sophia wants to maintain some emotional space from Jack and so she doesn't tell him everything she talks to her girlfriend, Elsa, about. Which dialectical tension does this illustrate? A. Predictability-novelty B. Openness-privacy C. Connection-autonomy D. Independence-association

Openness-privacy

Sari walks into the house with a distressed look on her face. Her boyfriend Ishmael responds to her look by saying, "What did you do this time?!" Which style of expressing conflict did he use? A. Assertion B. Passive aggression C. Avoidance D. Nonassertion

Passive aggression

Deshawn and Carol talk about the vacations they plan to take together and the enjoyment they'll get out of it. It makes them feel closer together. What love language are they using? A. Gifts B. Quality time C. Acts of service D. Affirming words

Quality time

Lucas and Charlotte are married. They unenthusiastically repeat the same conversations and follow the same routines. What stage are they likely in? A. Circumscribing B. Avoiding C. Stagnating D. Integrating

Stagnating