Interpersonal Communications Exam

In class, Professor Young gave variety of examples of cross-cultural words that cannot be directly translated into English. We cannot perceive or think about things for which we do not have words for. This is known as:

Linguistic determinism

Which of the following is contemporary attitude about marriage within the U.S.?

Marriage has become more of a choice that a necessity.

Cultures differ in their orientations of time. Most western cultures are ________, viewing time as a valuable commodity to be saved and scheduled whereas many South American countries are more organic in their

Monochronic, polychromic

During this stage of friendship development, individuals tend to rely on general scripts and social rules because they do not have enough personal knowledge of each other. People tend to be polite and to limit personal disclosures.

New acquaintances

PPhil and Claire, who have been married for 15 years, decide to role play at a bar to spice up their sex life. This is an example of which relational dialectic?

Novelty/predictabilty

When her daughter doesn't obey Jana the first time, Jna tells her its time to go. Jana says "time to go, and I really mean it this time" and emphasis "really" to show she's serious. To communicate her meaning to her daughter, jana has relied on:

Paralanguage

which of the following scenario reflects self serving bias in the attribution process?

Susan's friend Jim forgot to turn in his homework yesterday which she attributed to irresponsibly. However, today Susan didn't turn in her homework. She tried to explain that should shouldn't because a thunderstorm crashed her computer and someone stole her backup disk.

In an episode of Everybody love Raymond, the Ramon family has a disagreement. Marie, the mother in law and matriarch of the family, informs Amy, the new daughter in law about the importance of thank ou cards. the older couple Frank and Marie, reflects which stage of the family cycle?

Retirement

In the film Arranged, Rochel and Nasisa become good friends. Which of the following if not an example of how how they develop closeness in their friendship?

Rochel and Nasira take Principal Jacoby's money and go shopping together.

One useful technique during conflict is ____ in which partners confirm each other's concerns by agreeing to deal with them later. Problems are dealt one issue at a time, allowing partners to make progress in resolving the immediate issue.

Bracketing

_____ is the intention of choice to remain in a relationship

Commitment

Shannon and drew are taking CMST 107 together. They met in class and have slowly become friends. They have gone beyond the role-limited interactions and have begun to share some small self-disclosures with one another. They study together and often schedule times to meet for lunch with others from their class. This type of causal friendship can be defined as the ________ growth stage of friendship.

Fledging friendship

Which of the following scenarios reflect dialectic of novelty/predictability in interpersonal relationships?

Frank says he wants to go out to dinner and suggests a pizza at Mario's. Stan replies "Ah, that's where we always go, Im bored with Marios

During the _____ phase of romantic relationship deterioration, individuals try to make sense of what the relationship meant, why it didn't work out and how it affected them.

Grave dressing

Pat is walking down the street. A person who is homeless approaches her an asks for money. Pat keeps walking without speaking or looking at the person. The relaionsip between Pat and the person who is homeless is:

I-Me

Pam and Jim have been dating for about 3 months. With Christmas approaching, they discuss whether or not they want to spend the holidays together. They decide to go to Pam's family for christmas. This is the first time they are really presenting themselves as a serious couple. What stage of "coming together" are Pam and Jim?

Intensifying communication

In the film When Harry Met Sally, Hrry compliments sally. Sally defensively perceives him as "coming on" to her. Harry replies "what do you want me to do about it? I take it back, ok?" which of the following principles of interpersonal communication has harry forgotten?

Interpersonal communication is irreversible

which of the following scenarios describe the attribution process?

John knows that Angela is angry, but he cannot figure out why. He thinks she may be angry because of a remark he mad yesterday.

According to class lecture friendship is

a voluntary, mutual, personal and affectionate relationship devoid of expressed sexuality

The middles stages of constructive conflict is marked by what Gottman calls ______ which involves staying focused on main issues.

agenda

_______ is a matter of clearly and nonjudgmental stating what you feel, need or want

assertion

the first and most important principle in effective listening is

being mindful

You have been attending the University of Southern Indian. you notice that all across campus, there are students wearing t shirts and sweatpants with the USI logo. you determine that they re communication which of Maslow's hierarchy of needs?

belonging

According to John Gottman, one can choose to turn toward or turn away to communicative remarks like, "how was your work day?" and "you'll never guess what I heard today." these communicative gestures in which a person requests motional connection with one's romantic partner are known as ______

bids

the major determinant of whether communication is ethical or not involves:

choice

A speaker's knowledge of his or her language and knowledge of the rules of communicative interaction is _____

communication competence

which of the following is an external pressure t ofriendship

competing demands

which of the following is a principle of interpersonal conflict?

conflict styles are shaped by membership in cultures and social communities

___ spicy how to interpret different kinds of communication. we learn what counts as respect, friendliness, affection and professionalism.

constitutive rules

a key dimension of family communication is ______ of how open or closed communication is within the family.

conversation orientation

in class, we viewed a video segment from Six feet Under. In the clip, David and Keith are cooking together. When Keith snaps at David about putting too much pepper into the dish, David responds, "I feel ashamed. My perception was that you're irritated for me not knowing that already." which guideline of effectively communication emotions is David enacting?

counterfeit emotional language

passive aggression and games such as "yes but" are examples of

cover conflict

Mickey and Minnie are having an argument. Minnie says, "Well, if you hadn't wrecked the car, it wouldn't need repairs. It wouldn't be a problem." Mickey replies, "Yeah, and if you had been home when you said you would e, I wouldn't have driven that day." Mickey and Minnie are engaging in what conflict pattern?

cross complaining

Evaluative statements such as "thats a stupid idea" and "its dumb that your feel that way" are examples of:

defensive communiation

one aspect of friendship is emotional closeness. according to your textbook, for individuals socialized in feminine speech communities, closeness in interpersonal relationships is primarily achieved through:

dialogue

"you are a very smart girl," Tammy tells her daughter. Tammy's statement is an example of an

direct definition

You are walking across campus and notice how people greet one another. Some say "whats up?" some sy "Hi how are you?" and others just nonverbally head nod "hey" One theory that helps you realize that these everyday interactions are co performance o saying hello is ______

dramaturgical perspective

The ability to understand both your own and another's perspective, beliefs, thoughts and feelings is known as ________

dual perspective

which of the following is a form of constructive communication in conflict?

dual perspective

_____ is the ability to recognize our feelings, to judge which feelings are appropriate in situations and to communicate our feelings effectively.

emotional intelligence

In the video clip of The Goldbergs, Adam gets all dressed up for a school dance. When he enters the living room, his overbearing mother, Beverly, is wearing a matching outfit. Adam is embarrassed and wants to be autonomous from beverly. this scene between mother and son is an example of the ___ stage of the traditional family lie cycle

encouraging independence

the ____ states that whether a relationship is seen as satisfying and enduring depends upon whether people in it perceive the relationship as relatively equitable over time

equity theory

Whenever beget into an argument, my friend sops replying my email messages. I know she reads them. But if we're having an argument, she won't respond." explains Leslie. This is an example of the _______ response to conflict.

exit

you have known your best friend since kindergarten. you went to college together and were in each others weddings. however, you have continued on to graduate school while she has become a stay at home mother. Due to these life changes, it can sometimes be challenging to talk to one another because you do not have as much in common. This is an example of what in friendships?

external pressures

_____ is granting forgiveness or putting aside our own needs when there is no standard the says we should or must do. It means letting go of anger, blame and judgement of another person.

grace

______ is granting forgiveness or putting aside your own needs when there is no standard that says we should or must do. It means letting go of anger, blame and judgement of another person.

grace

YOu're listening to a friend talk about her poor performance on the GRE, the exam she had to take to get into graduate school. After she's done talking about it, you simply say "oh yeah" your friend then gets angry at you and says you could be more empathetic. you realize your response should have been:

im so sorry you think you did poorly, would you like to talk about it?

According to your textbook, _____ is the stage of romantic relationship growth that includes a sense of euphoria. It is also known as the "honeymoon stage"

intensifying communication

according to your textbook, person centeredness refers to:

interacting with an individual as a unique human being

according to your textbook and class lecture, which of the following is a unique challenge that heterosexual cross-sex friendships face?

jealousy

In an episode of How I met Your Mother, Barney gives Marshall some advice about how to deal with conflict with Marshalls wife, Lily. Marshall and Lily's interpersonal fight ends up spiraling out of control. Both of them end up engaging in unproductive conflict communication of _____ in which they insult one another and bring up past fights.

kitchen sinking

an _____ culture relies on language for expression while a culture relies on nonverbal behavior.

low context; high context

In reference to her love life, Mary says, "I like to shop around. It's a challenge to try to get someone interested in me, but im not looking for anything permanent." Mary seems to have which style of loving?

ludus

Why is understanding how to manage conflict effectively in romantic relationships important?

many times partners who do not know how to effectively communicate their emotions resort to violence

which of the following is a characteristic of male-male friendships

men often provide support to their male friends through covert intimacy

taste attends the first meeting os SAFE, the gay-straight alliance on campus. She offers a number of positive comments during the open discussion. Tasha then realizes that others aren't speaking up. she thinks to herself, "Id better hold it down a bit and say less. Im monopolizing the conversation." Tasha has engaged in ______

monitoring

Randy says, "I am really bummed about not getting any job offers." His roommate, Billy, responds, "Sounds like you're feeling pretty low about the response so far." Billy's communication is an example of:

paraphrasing

In the film, War of Roses, Barbara askes her husband, Oliver, to review a contract for her new catering business. Oliver finally starts to read the contract, but allows a fly to distract him. He kills the fly with the contract and then takes a clients phone call. Barbara is so angry that she turns on every kitchen appliance that makes noise, turns off the lights and leaves the room. This type of behavior in conflict is known as:

passive aggressiveness

________ is the process of creating a comfortable personal environment that reflects the values, experiences, and tastes of the couple

placemaking

according to scholars such as Stephanie coontz, marriage historically has been about

political alliances

Your friend Asha explains to you about arranged marriages in India. She describes Indian arranged marriages as in "cold soup that you heat up over time" versus that American ideal of marriage as "hot soup that slowly cools down." Ashas love attitude that marriage is practical could be described as:

pragma

In class, we viewed a clip from Seinfield. in the scene, Elain's boyfriend stands too closely to Jerry's parents when he talks, making them feel a bit uncomfortable. This "close talker" is violating cultural expectations of personal space or ________.

proxemics

Billy always finds little love notes in the aprtment from bobby. bobby always calls bill "sugar pie" and billy's nickname for bobby is "sunshine" Every Friday night, they go out to the movies. This private world of rules, understandings and patterns of communication is known as

relational culture

Every Friday, you and your best friend know its time to binge watch Grey's Anatomy and eat pizza. you know that if he is running late for your weekly tv watching dinner, its normal. This is unspoken understanding that regulates how people interact is called ________

relationship rules

in the _____ stage of relationship deterioration, individuals now have independent lives from one another. Both have "moved on" from the relationship .

resurrection

_____ is the revelation of personal information about ourselves that others are unlikely to discover in other ways

self disclosure

People socialized in masculine speech communities tend to achieve closeness in interpersonal relationships primarily through:

sharing activities

On an episode of The Big Bang Theory, Sheldon attempts to make a new friend. he creates a friendship algorithm on a white board to help him. as a person socialized in masculine speech community, he tries to achieve closeness in the relationship by _______.

sharing an activity

_____ states that people apply economic principles to evaluate their friendships.

social exchange theory

Jamal crossed his arms and gave Aisha the silent treatment while she criticized him for neglecting their relationship. Jamal's behavior is an example of _____, one of Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse of romantic relationships.

stonewalling

Of her marriage, Pam says, "It wasn't like we ever reeky fell in love, It was morelikewe grew together kind of gradually. I think of my husband as my best friend." pam seems to have which style of loving?

storge

Don and Betty are having an argument about money. "You're making a mountain out of a molehill," Don says. Don continues to minimize the problem. This response to conflict is:

the neglect response

_____ is work that a person (usually a women) does after coming home from work in the paid labor force outside of the home. This work includes fixing meals, doing housework, shopping, and caring for children.

the second shift

Which of the following is the most constructive way to deal with intimate relationships?

voice

The Station Agent is a film that focuses on the friendship among Fin, Joe and Olivia. Which of the following is an example of how the three characters developed and increased closeness within their friendships?

watching and learning about trains

according to your textbook, in the early stages of relationship development reciprocity of disclosures is important. This means what?

we are willing to disclose private information only as long as the other person reveals private information to us

which of the following comments would be likely made during the invitational stage of romantic relationships?

whats your major?

which is the best example of using a personal construct

when jasmine reaches across the table to get a pepper shake, Deborah perceives Jasmine's behavior as rude.

Lenny says, "I don't like to lose arguments. The way I figure it, when you have a disagreement there can only be one winner." Lenny's orientation to conflict is ________.

win-lose