Interpersonal Communications Exam 3

Whenever Bridgette and Tony fight, Tony always brings up additional issues until the original issue gets lost. This is an example of

"kitchen sink fighting"

In one study, more than _____ of men said their most meaningful experiences with friends came from shared activities

75%

What do I do that's unfair?" is which way to seek additional information from your critics?

Ask for specifics

Which of the following is a win-win strategy?

Determine what both parties need to get out of a negotiation

After you agree with the truth, what is your next step

Discuss what intend to do about your behavior

Jack wants to limit their spending and Sandy wants to try a new restaurant. Which of the following would be an example of the competitive conflict style?

I think we should forget your stupid budget and go out to eat for once

Which of the following would be the most likely form of refusal in the Japanese culture

I will consider it and let you know

_________acknowledges the other person's communication, but shifts the conversation to a new direction.

Tangential response

A married couple has a fight. They stop talking. Eventually the husband goes to the wife and apologizes. This pattern is repeated throughout their marriage. This example is demonstrating

a conflict ritual

Functional conflict is characterized by:

a, b, and c only

Dave tells his girlfriend he wants to see a new action movie but goes along when she replies that she would rather see a romantic comedy. This is an example of:

accommodation

In order to create a confirming climate, a person needs to

acknowledge the other's position

Quietly listening while someone describes his/her latest problems or asking follow up questions about what you have heard are examples of which level of confirming response

acknowledgement

When an instructor listens carefully to your question in class, he or she is using which level of confirming message?

acknowledgment

Which of the dimensions of interaction identified in the Stocker and McHale research had the highest level of reciprocity?

affection

The tendency to attack the self concepts of other people in order to inflict psychological pain is referred to as

aggressiveness

Logical reasons for the similarity thesis include:

all of the above

Partners in interpersonal relationships can use which of the following styles to manage their conflicts?

all of the above

Research shows that which of the following are highly confirming behaviors that parents can offer to children?

all of the above

The similarity thesis is based on which similarities between partners

all of the above

Speaker: I'm really worried about trying to meet all of my obligations this semester. There's just SO much to do! Listener: Yeah, I guess we're all overwhelmed. I had to work every day last weekend. The listener's response is an example of:

an impersonal response

Albert Camus said "Charm is a way of getting the answer yes without asking a clear question" This quotation refers to

an indirect appeal

Which of the following opening lines was judged by both male and female college students to be most appropriate in initiating a conversation?

an introduction by a friend

_________occurs when people nonassertively ignore or stay away from conflict

avoidance

I've been sick lately and can't see you is illustrative of which relational stage?

avoiding

Business contracts or marriage licenses are found in which stage of relational developement

bonding

Working late at the office could be an example of which stage of relational development?

circumscribing

Friendships are created, managed, and maintained through

communication

Long time friends Grace and Kishia has little in common when Grace got married and Kishia was still single. Once Kishia got married, she found herself talking to Grace all the time again. This is an example of

communication within a friendship changes over time

Although she has a boyfriend, Kim realizes she may be happier if she is single when she goes away to college. Kim is rating her relationship according to her:

comparison level of alternatives

Gottman claims that _____________ is not the sign of a troubled relationship

complaining

You never take out the garbage unless I nag you is an example of which type of disagreeing message

complaining

Which of the following is not a level of confirming communication?

compliment

Sherell and Monique have a disagreement about how to spend their end-of-the-year bonus. Sherell wants to go on a trip, and Monique wants to spend it on the house. Instead, they decide to buy a fishing boat. This is probably an example of

compromise

Kahlil Gibran's statement "Let there be spaces in your togetherness. ... The pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow" is indicative of which relational stage?

differentiating

Distancing yourself from a friend because you notice that the friend never reciprocates her/his thoughts and feelings like you do reflects which of the reasons we choose relationships?

disclosure

Cecelia enjoys romantic movies, whereas Eddie prefers action films. They explain away their differences by saying that they both love movies. They are using the strategy of

disorientation

Validating another person's feelings or offering direct praise is an example of

endorsement

Anna, who is counselor at a women's crisis center, says the reason she most often hears from battered wives for returning to their husbands is " I don't have any other place to go" Which explanation of why people perform relationships best predicts this relationship

exchange theory, which suggests we form relationships through assessment of potential rewards and costs

Nayib said he would call his friend Sharif when he got home from work. Sharif expects that if Nayib says he will call that he will follow through. When Nayib doesn't call, Sharif gets angry. This is an example of

expectancy violation

Small talk is the hallmark of which stage of relationship development?

experimenting

The fact that two people both like the same kind of books is most important during which relationship stage?

experimenting

Self disclosure is most related to which dialectical tension?

expression privacy dialect

When a family is torn between going on vacation by themselves or spending their vacation with another family, what are they experiencing?

external dialectical tensions

Which of the following is NOT a characteristic of a chaotic family?

extreme adaptability

Allie asks her friend Stella, "Do you like your hair?" instead of saying, "I don't think your new haircut is very flattering." This is an example of

face saving

Attacks against our presenting self are called

face threatening acts

Mother-father, mother-son, mother-daughter, father-son, father-daughter, daughter-son are an example of

family subsystems

When one partner says, "I want to talk about your treatment of me" and the other partner leaves, the conflict would be labeled:

fight-flight

Families who are most successful at negotiating adolescence tend to be

flexible

A monologue of intellectual, generalized statements is considered which type of disconfirming response?

impersonal

Acting as though you don't hear someone and not making any response is which type of disconfirming response?

impervious

The decision whether a message is percieved as conforming of discomforming si

in the eye of the beholder

Shawn: Did you enjoy the movie Katie: Yeah, I loved it(rolling eyes) Katie's response is an example of

incongruous response

It is understood that every year Bob will plan a surprise evening for Cathy's birthday. Cathy just doesn't know where the surprise will take place. Bob and Cathy are using the _________ strategy for managing the stability-change dialect

integration

Although she really loves Jon and enjoys being with him, Waynetta is beginning to feel trapped in her marriage to him. She is being pulled by the:

integration-separation dialectic

The attitude of "We're all in this together" reflects the quality of:

interdependence

Brennan's parents are very supportive of he and his brother finding careers that they love, expressing their individuality by dressing in ways that are comfortable to them, and by helping to make decisions about the household. This is an example of a family who uses

low conformity orentation

If Cal accuses Jaden of constantly interrupting him when they argue, Cal is engaging in:

metacommunication

Which is not a strategy outlined by Hess for gaining distance from a relational partner?

name calling

Mark says to Shannon, "So what I hear you saying is that you feel overwhelmed with all the housework that you have to do when I'm on business trips. And you feel that you're making decisions about the kids by yourself. This is an example of

paraphrasing the speakers idea

Customer: The amount of time I've been on hold is ridiculous. I'm going to cancel my service. CSR: It sounds like your angry. Can you tell me about your problem? The listeners response is an example of

paraphrasing the speakers ideas

Making a critical joke at another person's expense and then excusing the joke by saying "I was only kidding" is an example of what kind of conflict style?

passive aggression

Differentiation is often a part of normal relational maintenance because

people need to be individuals as well as part of a relationship

A blended family is

people who marry and have children from a prior marriage

I have tried everything in my power to make this relationship work, but it's impossible. It'll never work because you don't make any effort; you don't try at all. This statement is an example of which type of dysfunctional conflict?

polarization

Tia tells her partner daily how much she appreciates all the hard work she does. In turn, Tia's partner, Nelly, shares that she knows Tia is also working hard. When Tia hears this, she is motivated to share other kind thoughts. This is an example

positive communication spiral

The fact that we are likely to choose a mate with whom we frequently cross paths often points to which reason for forming relationships?

proximity

Accommodators deal with conflict by

putting the other's needs ahead of their own

When you send someone a birthday card because she or he sent you one, you are complying with the norm of

reciprocity

Researchers who study argumentativeness

regard it as an attacking of issues, not an attacking of people

An instructor tells you, "The topic of your speech was very appealing to many in the audience. The thesis statement needed to be a single statement and less broad. Your hand gestures were energetic and well used." This constructive criticism strategy is called:

sandwich method

If someone used one of Gibb's attacking behaviors on you, it is best to

seek more information

All of the following are types of defense arousing communication identified by Jack Gibb except

spontaneity

Quite frankly, this relationship is getting pretty boring. I always know exactly what Bev is going to do and say about everything." The boredom of this relationship is linked to the:

stability-change dialectic

Workers who have lost enthusiasm for the job reflect which relational stage

stagnation

Which type of person was rated as the most attractive

superior person who blundered

The biggest challenge in male-female friendship is

the potential for sexual attraction

Which of the following is NOT one the Four Horsemen of toxic conflict

unreasonable

If two coworkers are seeking promotion to the same job, they would likely fall into which method of resolving disputes?

win-lose

One format for constructing an assertive message consists of five elements. Which of the following is not one of the five elements?

your critique of what is wrong with the behavior