Chapter 3

examples of altercasting

"as a friend, you will want to help me here" "only a fool would..."

Narratives can be:

-ontology (how I came to be who i am) -epistemology (how I think about the world) -individual construction/relational process (when romantic partners tell how they first met)

back region

a frame where a social interaction is regarded as not under public scrutiny, so people don't have to present their public face

Front region

a frame where a social interaction is regarded as under public scrutiny, so people have to be on their best behavior or acting out their professional roles or intended "face"

Performative self

a self that is a creative performance based on the social demands and norms of a given situation

origin stories

builds off a sense of origin and sense of continuity, comes from somewhere and has roots

self description

description that involves information about self that is obvious to others through appearance and behavior

examples of dialectic tensions

dialogue between different "voices" in your head, push-n-pull, autonomy-connectedness, openness-closeness

The value of self disclosure

growth in intimacy, secrets/anything person makes you feel closer

Altercasting

how language can impose a certain identity on people, and how language can support or reject the identity of another person

example of origin stories

i'm hispanic, i'm a true southerner, i want to know about my grandfather

examples of self description

male, bearded, short, bald, 2 watches

dialectic tensions

occurs whenever one is in two minds about something because one feels a simultaneous pull in two directions

symbolic interactionism

people get their sense of self from other people and from being aware that others observe, judge, and evaluate their behavior

examples of self disclosure

resents, is proud of, enjoys, thinks, is wondering

example of front and back regions

server talking happily to customers but when she goes back to the kitchen, she isn't happy-her attitude changes

self disclosure

the revelation of personal information that others could not know unless the person made it known

When are there different boundaries?

they will be different with kids at different ages and they can be stronger around your identity for acquaintances (coworkers) than you do for your friends

example of attitude of reflection

what will the neighbors think?

Attitude of reflection

your identity isn't yours alone but is partly adopted from society and so affects your credibility