Counseling

Summarizing

bringing together the different aspects of your counseling session into a succinct review of what has occurred

Counselor

the individual providing assistance and guidance

Counselee

the individual seeking assistance or guidance

Aggression

the intentional infliction of physical or psychological harm on another

Stress

the mental and physical condition that occurs when a person must adjust or adapt to the environment

Emotional expression

the outward expression or display of mood or feeling states

Motivation

the process that initiates, directs, and sustains behavior satisfying psychological or psychological needs

Leading

the skill of encouraging the client to further explore what you feel is a major issue, more or less anticipating where the client is going

Frustration

the state of being prevented from attaining a purpose; thwarted; the blocking of the satisfaction of a perceived need by some kind of obstacle

Alienation

the state of estrangement an individual feels in social settings that are viewed as foreign, unpredictable or unacceptable

Thanatology

the study of death

Aftercare (post-funeral counseling)

those appropriate and helpful acts of counseling that come after the funeral

Facilitate

to assist understanding of the circumstances or situations the individual is experiencing, and to assist that person in the selection of an alternative adjustment if necessary

Discrimination

treating members of carious social groups differently in circumstances where their rights or treatment should be identical

Situational Counseling

Related to specific situations in life that may created rises and produce human pain and suffering. this type of counseling adds another dimension to the giving of information in that it deals with significant feelings that are produced by life crises

Adaptation

The individual's ability to adjust to the psychological and emotional changes brought on by a stressful event such as the death of a significant other

Acute Grief

The intense physical and emotional expression of grief occurring as the awareness increases of a loss of someone or something significant

Goals

adjustment, motivational in nature, to be achieved

Counseling (Webster)

advice, especially that given as a result of consultation

Mourning

an adjustment process which involves grief or sorrow over a period of time and helps in the reorganization of the life of an individual following a loss of death or someone beloved

Grief

an emotion or set of emotions due to loss

Thanatophobia

an irrational, exaggerated fear of death

Defense Mechanisms

an unconscious, irrational means used by the ego to defend against anxiety

Stressor

any event capable of producing physical or emotional stress

Mitigation

any event, person or object that lessens the degree of pain in grief

Counseling (Jackson)

any time someone helps someone else with a problem

Questioning

assisting the client in exploring their thoughts and feelings through open-ended questions

Projection

attribution of one's unacceptable thoughts, feelings, or behaviors to someone else

Integrity

being of sound moral principles, upright and honest

Guilt

blame directed toward one's self based on real or unreal conditions

Repression

blocking of threatening material from consciousness

Attitude

A learned predisposition to respond to a person, object, or institutions in a positive or negative way

Abnormal Grief

grief extending over a long period of time without resolution

Complicated

grief extending over a long period of time without resolution.

Alternatives

- Providing a choice of services and merchandise available as families make a selection and complete funeral arrangements, formulating different actions in adjusting to a crisis.

Alarm

Fear or anxiety caused by the sudden realization of danger

Unresolved

Grief extending over a long period of time without resolution

Sincerity

Having a real interest in people and their problems

Summary

a belief review of points covered in a portion of the counseling session

Suppression

a conscious postponement of addressing anxieties and concerns can bring peace and understanding

At-need counseling

a death has occurred and the funeral director is advising the family from the time the death occurs until the final disposition including selection of the services and merchandise during the arrangements

Persuasion

a deliberate attempt to change attitudes or beliefs with information and arguments

Commuication

a general term for the exchange of information, feelings, thoughts and acts between two or more people, including both verbal and non-verbal aspects of this interchange

Death Anxiety

a learned emotional response to death-related phenomenon which is characterized by extreme apprehension

Counseling (Klicker)

a non-judgmental short term helping process where one individual (the counselor) helps another individual or group (counselee or clients) understand and deal with issues or problems in their daily life

Person centered (Client Centered Counseling / Non-Directive / Roger Counseling)

a phrase coined by Carl Rogers to refer to that type of counseling where one comes actively and voluntarily to gain help on a problem, but without any notion of surrendering his own responsibility for the situation; a non-directive method of counseling which stresses the inherent worth of the client and the natural capacity for growth and health

Rapport

a relation of harmony, comformity, accord or affinity established in any human interaction

Burnout

a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion caused by long-term involvement in situations that are emotionally draining

Anxiety

a state of tension, typically characterized by rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath and other similar ramifications of arousal of the automatic nervous system; an emotion characterized by a vague fear or premonition that something undesirable is going to happened

Counseling (Ohlesen)

a therapeutic experience for reasonable health persons. Do not confuse this with psychotherapy which is treatment for emotionally disturbed persons, who seek, or are referred for assistance with pathological problems. A counselor's clients are encouraged to seek assistance before they develop serious neurotic, psychotic, or characterological disorders

Congruence

according to client-centered counseling, the necessary quality of a counselor being in touch with reality and other's perception of oneself

Focusing

centering a client's thinking and feelings on the situation causing a problem and assisting the person in choosing the behavior or adjustment to solve the problem.

coping

characteristic ways of responding to stress

Option

choice of actions provided through counseling as a means of solving the counselee's problem

Informational Counseling

counseling in which a counselor shares a body of special information with a counselee

Counseling (Freuhling)

counseling is a helping relationship in which one party seeks to facilitate the development of informed choices and meaningful actions at a critical time within the context of anothers life

Directive Counseling

counselor takes a live speaking role, asking questions, suggesting courses of action, etc

Illustrating

detailed examples of adjustments, choices or alternatives available to the client or counselee, from which a course or action may be selected

Paraphrasing

expressing a thought or idea in an alternate and sometimes a shortened form

Emotion(s)

feelings such as happiness, anger or grief, created by brain patterns accompanies by bodily changes

Attending (listening)

giving undivided attention by means of verbal and non-verbal behavior.

Counseling (Rogers)

good communication within and between men; or, good (free) communication within or between men is always therapeutic

Grief Counseling

helping people facilitate uncomplicated grief to a healthy completion of the tasks of grieving within a reasonable time frame. a specialty in general counseling with the goal of helping the individual grieve and address personal loss a healthy manner

Hospice

historically an inn for travelers, especially one kept by a religious order; also used to indicate a concept designed to treat patients with a life limiting condition

Pyschotherapy (Jackson)

intervention with people whose needs are so specific that usually they can only be met by specially trained physicians or psychologists. the practitioners in this field need special training because they often work with deeper levels of consciousness

Crisis Counseling

interventions for a highly emotional, temporary state in which individuals, overcome by feelings of anxiety, grief, confusion or pain are unable to act in a realistic, normal manner. intentional responses which help individuals in crisis situation

Anger

is blame directed towards another person

Affect

is the feelings and their expression

Active Listening

listening to the words, observing the non-verbal cues expressed in eye contact, posture, facial expression, gestures, and being sensitive to tone, inflection, speed and intensity of what is being said

Supportive Counseling

listening, questing, probing and validating the grievers concerns

Prejudice

negaitve attitude towards others based on their gender, religion, race, or membership in a particular group

Subllimation

redirection of emotion to culturally or socially useful purposes

Regression

returning to more familiar and often more primitive modes of coping

Informing

sharing knowledge you have with the client usually where the funeral director feels the most comfortable

Sympathy

sincere feelings for the person who is trying to adjust to a serious loss

Grief Therapy (Worden)

specialized techniques which are used to help people with complicated grief reactions

Fear

strong emotion marked by such reactions as alarm, dread or disquieting

Rationalization

supplying a logical, rational, socially acceptable reason rather than the reason for an action

Guidance

support or support system provided to the counselee who is seeking an alternative adjustment to problems

Anticipatory Grief

syndrome characterized by the presence of grief in anticipation of death or loss; the actual death comes as a confirmation of knowledge of a life-limiting condition.

Pre-need Counseling

that counseling which occurs before death

Warmth and caring (Wolfelt)

the ability to be considerate and friendly as demonstrated by both verbal and non-verbal behaviors

Respect (Wolfelt)

the ability to communicate the belief that everyone possesses the capacity and right to choose alternatives and make decisions OR holding a person in high reguard

Empathy (Wolfelt)

the ability to perceive another's experience and communicate that perception back to the person. OR The ability to perceive accurately the feelings of your clients

Genuineness (Wolfelt)

the ability to present oneself sincerely. the counselor's spontaneity, consistency, and authenticity

Bereavement

the act or event of separation of loss that results in the experience of grief

Shame

the assumption of blame directed toward one's self by others

Reflecting

the counselor expresses in fewer or fresh words the essential feelings stated or implied by the counselee

Perception Checking

the counselor need further explanation from the client to ensure the completely understands what is being said