FAML 160 W08-14
The 7 Family-Financial Rules by Dr. Parry include all of the following except which?
Create a spending plan based on your shared feelings and opinions.
adversarial approach to divorce is
an approach that assumes one of the spouses is at fault.
In the context of the five styles of stepmothering, which of the following is the most common style?
an older close friend
The third stage of the process of coping with infertility is
anger
Of psychologist Constance Ahrons's four types of relationships between ex-spouses, _____ were those who could tolerate being in the same place with the ex-spouse but who still felt so hostile and bitter that they could not interact pleasantly.
angry associates
A sexual dysfunction is
any impairment of the physical responses in sexual activity.
One option for the infertile that involves injecting sperm into a woman's reproductive tract is
artificial insemination
AID
artificial insemination by donor
AIH
artificial insemination by husband
In the long run, adopted children function
as well as those raised by their natural parents
Does Dr. Parry suggests having money time when kids are awake and you and your spouse are seated on the couch watching TV together?
false
Dr. Parry found that married couples' shared goals and values were NOT directly correctly correlated with marital happiness, financial stability, and individual well-being.
false
Social scientists who specialize in interpersonal conflict have identified five different styles of fighting. Which of the following is not one of these?
instigation
Jane has just told her friend Jonathan about the great new swim instructor at the YMCA and which swimming strokes he taught first. Jane gives off many non-verbal cues about this new instructor, indicating a possible romantic or erotic interest in him. Jonathan ignores all the non-verbal cues and criticizes the instructor's style of teaching. Jonathan's style of listening is that of the
intellectual listener
The interrupter listener
interrupts, either with negative or even positive messages, either way the other person can't say what they want
Since she married Duncan, Candy does not feel that she gets enough time for herself. When Duncan proposes that they go out together, Candy refuses and asks him to go by himself. Duncan gets jealous and says she does not want to be seen with him. What is the underlying source of tension?
intimacy and privacy
vaginismus
involuntary spasms of the muscles around the vagina, preventing penetration by the penis or making it painful
Dependent listener
just desperately trying to please the speaker
In the context of destructive messages, the statement "You will have to be more forceful at work and demand a raise if you are going to be a good father and husband," illustrates
lecturing
Orbuch and Custer (1995) reported that when women defined their work as one of the most important aspects of their lives, their husbands
reacted negatively
In the context of the process of uncoupling, _____ frequently occurs when marital stress and open conflict are followed by a period of a cold war between the spouses.
recognition
four phases of uncoupling
recognition, discussion, action, post-dissolution
James defines his family in terms of the biological parents with whom he lives. This way of defining family is
reduction
If two lovers have developed their own special language, such as touching the fingers to the lips as a way of saying, "I love you," then they are using a nonverbal cue to ___ the message of love.
repeat
As a nonverbal cue, ____ the message stands on its own, without requiring words.
repeating
neutralized symmetry
respect and avoids exerting power
Self conscious listener
respond in order to impress or show status
Impotence
the inability to get or sustain an erection, is the most common problem among men
a loyalty conflict is
the internal stress that results when contradictory commitments are expected from different family members
The resource theory of power holds that
the person with more resources has more power.
what is the family cycle for step families?
the turbulent first two years, golden period, singing in the rain
The text cites longitudinal research concluding that the most powerful predictor of whether a couple will break up or stay together is
the way they handle their differences
In the context of impediments to communication, ________ tends to create the same emotions as ordering.
threatening
More than ______ of all married people who have paid work outside of the home live in a dual-income family
three fourths
The optimal time period between divorce and remarriage seems to be ____ year(s).
three to five
submissive symmetry is
to give control to the other, neither wants to take control of the situation
Can the second 10% of the 10-10-80 plan only be used to reduce debt.?
false
sources of power
income, emotional support, sexual availability, and parenting skills.
Which of the following statements illustrates the desire to have children as a personal and family legacy?
"Children will carry on our family name."
The text observes that some dual-career women may try to become the ______ the perfect mother, the best homemaker, the ideal wife, and the high-achieving career woman.
"superwoman"
Collaboration
(opposite of avoidance) high self and other concern, want optimal solutions
Accommodation
(opposite of competition) low self concern high other concern, speaks up but neglects their own needs, will always give in
How many Americans believe that divorce is morally wrong?
22 percent
the types of remarriage make how many combinations
24
By 2001, only ___ percent of husbands were the sole provider in a marriage.
25
The text cites a poll wherein it was discovered that even if women felt they had enough money to live comfortably without working
33 percent would work part-time, 15 percent would continue working full-time, 20 percent would do volunteer work
It is estimated that anywhere from ___ percent of the meaning we convey is through the use of nonverbal cues.
50 to 80
A pause, an emphasis on a particular word, and a touch illustrate which function of nonverbal cues?
Accenting the verbal message
different functions of nonverbal communication
Complement your words Contradict your words Repeat (like an inside joke of a special touch) Regulate Substitute Accent Trigger attributions they learn your unique signals Influence
According to the text's discussion, which of the following statements is true about well-managed conflict?
All, It helps to defuse more serious conflict. It helps people grow. It can create and maintain an equitable balance of power.
Which of the following statements is NOT true about divorce rates in the United States?
Among first marriages, one of five break up within eight years.
Mary is an only child. Her parents give her orders and expect her to obey them. If she does not follow their rules, she is punished. Mary's parents' use which parenting style?
Authoritarian
The text points out that the most responsible and well-adjusted children are generally produced by which of the following parenting styles?
Authoritative/Active
According to the studies by McLaughlin, Cormier, and Cormier about the women in dual-earner families, which of the following is NOT one of the time-management coping strategies cited?
Avoiding asking other family members for help
What behaviors usually characterize the action stage of marital dissolution?
Couples often argue and struggle over such things as the division of property.
Fred has recently remarried. In his first marriage, he devoted full attention to his wife. Now, he believes that he must "look out for number one" regardless of what this means for his marital relationship. Fred's behavior reflects which myth of remarriage?
Be an individual first and a couple second
virtues and skills from Fowers
Courage, strength, self restraint, compassion, empathy, charity
Which of the following statements is true about child care facilities?
Children 3 years of age and younger in child care have higher rates of communicable illnesses than do children reared in their homes.
Kinds of nonverbal communication
Clothing Facial expressions and eye behavior touching
three patterns of grief with the death of a spouse
Common, high level of grief and depression that decrease over time Resilient, low levels of grief and depression Chronic, high levels with short term and long term negative affects
Positive step-parenting experiences are more likely to happen when stepfathers do/have which of the following?
Communicate often and well with their stepchildren. Are supported by their wives in their involvement with and discipline of stepchildren. Have prior, involved parenting experience with their natural children.
The text concludes that inequality in household tasks among dual-earner and dual-career couples is explained by which of the following?
Differences in income. Wives not defining their unequal share of household tasks as unfair. The persistence of traditional role expectations.
Satir 1972 roles:
Distractor, change the subject, not listening Blamer, finding faults and finding someone to blame Computer, untrarational Placator, agreeable, trying to please
Which of the following statements is true about infertility?
Environmental pollutants can cause infertility in men.
The text observes that equity is a crucial part of a satisfying, intimate relationship. This observation is a reflection of which theoretical approach?
Exchange theory
Six types of power Raven, Centers, Rodrigues 1975 differing resources
Expert, common for men, influence someone because of special knowledge or expertise Legitimate, common for men, authoritative position Spouse has the right to ask and you have the duty to comply Referent, common for women, ability to influence someone because he or she identifies with and desires to please you Coercive, threat of punishment Reward, influence someone by offering rewards Information, arguing in terms of his or her best interests
What are the styles of listening?
Faker, Dependent listener, Interrupter, Self conscious listener, Intellectual listener
Which of the following is considered a certified professional?
Financial Counselor
Bill is determined to make his remarriage work, so he "walks on eggs," rather than confronting, challenging, or arguing with other family members. Bill's behavior reflects which myth of remarriage?
Focus on the positive and forget criticism
In terms of the text's discussion of divorce trends, what is the significance of the year 1974?
For the first time, more U.S. marriages ended by divorce than death of a spouse.
In Egypt, the Muslim marriage contract requires which of the following?
Husbands agree to a "dower." Husbands support their wives. Wives obey their husbands.
According to the text which of the following statements is true about the experience of parenting?
In the long run, women may receive more psychological benefits from child-rearing than do men.
Which of the following statements is true about the silent treatment?
It communicates that one person is angry and unwilling to discuss the situation or problem.
In the context of impediments to communication, which of the following statements is true about ridiculing?
It will generate more resistance and resentment than change and intimacy.
Marilee and Mark were both employed while they were married. They have been divorced about one year, and Marilee has custody of the children. Which of the following is likely to be true?
Marilee's standard of living has gone down since the divorce.
Klontz, Kahler, and Klontz (2016) found four main money scripts including all but which of the following?
Money flattery
what are the four money scripts?
Money worship, Money vigilance, Money status, Money avoidance
five types of stepmothers
Older close friend Type of kin Peer like girlfriend My fathers wife Another mother
Tony has parents who allow him to make his own decisions. They place virtually no rules or constraints on his behavior. His parents use which parenting style?
Permissive
Wally and Linda have accepted the fact that their marriage has ended; Linda attributes the divorce to Wally's love affair with another woman; Wally rationalizes his extramarital activities to Linda's loss of interest in sex. Wally and Linda are in which stage of marital dissolution?
Post-dissolution
After the people of Christ were so richly blessed, the text points out several reasons why this society fell, but which reason is the cause of the others?
Pride
Which of the following statements is true about a traditional dual-career family?
The wife simply adds the new role of a career woman.
Which of the following statements is true about boundaries in stepfamilies?
They are often not very clear-cut.
Which of the following statements is true about good listeners?
They nod or respond with "I see" or "That's interesting" to let the speaker know she or he is listening.
myths of remarriage
Things must work out, desperation or confidence Consider other people first, denies your own needs Be an individual first and a couple second, opposite extreme Focus on the positive and forget criticism, pretend Pseudomutuality Avoid mistakes of the past Marriage makes people happier
Dr. Parry suggest changing the name of the Pride Cycle to which of the following?
Prosperity Cycle
Which of the following is true about divorce in Japan?
Rates rose rapidly beginning in the 1960's. The majority of divorces are initiated by wives. About one in three Japanese marriages ends in divorce.
venereal diseases
Sexually transmitted diseases
Types of remarriage
Single, without kids, with custody, without custody, with custody of some
seven stages of coping with infertility
Surprise, denial, anger, guilt, depression, grief, resolution
Having a scheduled time to discuss money as a couple can help to prevent which of the following?
Sweeping money issues under the carpet, Cyclical money misunderstandings, Random arguments about money
Which of the following is an accurate statement about women in the labor force?
The fastest growing group of female workers is married mothers with children under 6 years of age.
four patterns of power in a marriage
Wife dominate Husband dominate Autonomic shared authority over separate things Syncratic shared authority over everything
In most nations, including the United States, if people could have only one child, more would prefer which sex?
a boy rather than a girl
When the wife is infertile or incapable of carrying a child, a couple may opt for _____ , wherein a woman volunteers to carry the baby of the couple and give it to them at the time of birth.
a surrogate mother
According to the text, power is defined as the ___
ability to get someone to think or act in a certain way
Complementary interaction
agreement where one is dominant and one is submissive
Robert identifies both his biological parents and his stepparents as family members. He sees his stepparents as an addition to the family. He enjoys moving freely between homes of his biological parents and feels little hostility between parents. This way of defining family is termed
augmentation
In ____, the approach is to put boundaries on acceptable behavior within a warm, accepting context.
authoritative parenting
Peggy resents Steve's lack of affection for her as his spouse. However, she does not say anything about this, because she wants to maintain peace between them. Her style of conflict is
avoidance
We should take the advice that the Savior told the rich man an
be willing to act when we receive an answer
Resources that determine power in families are
both material and non-material
Compromise
both self and other concern, moderation, seeks satisfying solutions
The biggest problem faced by remarried couples involves
children
Research has shown that the most frequently mentioned issue discussed by couples who are anticipating remarriage is
children from a previous marriage
The text points out that about two-thirds of all couples involved with marital dissolution experience Bohannan's ______ divorce.
co-parental
What are the five different styles of fighting?
collaborating, competing, avoiding, accommodating, and compromising
In the context of the styles of conflict, ___ is the opposite of avoidance.
collabortation
Those who remarry tend to assume and expect that the new spouse will be
committed to making the marriage last
Carrie and Jason are dissolving their marriage. Carrie is now uncomfortable with some of their former friends, particularly those who worked with Jason. She is attempting to cut ties with this group and develop her own set of friends. Carrie is going through which station of divorce?
community
In the context of the six stations of divorce, the ______ means that each of the partners leaves one circle of friends and relations and enters another.
community divorce
The ______ marriage is a dual-career marriage in which the spouses live in different locations and still maintain their dual commitment to work and to family.
commuter
John and Martha are looking for a house to buy. Martha says: "John, I will leave this decision up to you since you are better at making business decisions." John responds, "Thanks, you are right, and I will make the decision." The type of power interaction between John and Martha is
complementary interaction
_____ involves some concern about both one's own interests and the interests of the other.
compromise
Brother Tuttle said in conference that tithing has more to do with
faith than money
what are the 7 Family-Financial Rules by Dr. Parry
create shared values and goals, create a spending plan based on those values and goals, save for emergencies, create a financial plan based on shared future goals, insurance, reduce debt and invest for the future, protect and or give wealth based on shared goals
Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling
The second stage in the process of coping with infertility is
denial
anorgasmia
difficulty reaching or an inability to reach orgasm
The first step to stopping the negative communication is to
diffuse negativity
In the context of the process of uncoupling, _____ is the period during which one or both spouses begin to share the marital problems with others—friends, relatives, a counselor, and often each other.
discussion
The text cites a study of 90 couples, which found that those with satisfying marriages ____
divided up decision making so that each spouse had some power in the relationship
According to the text's discussion of gender differences regarding divorce,
divorce tends to raise the level of aggression in both boys and girls
Mike and Sheila are married. He works as an engineer and she as an accountant. They are best described as _____ family.
dual career
In her study of dual-career families, Gilbert identified three different arrangements. Which of the following is NOT one of these?
egalitarian
Those men who are more willing to assume some of the traditionally female tasks than men who are less willing tend to be
egalitarian, urban, non white, educated
six stations of divorce
emotional, legal, economic, co-parental, community, psychic
Misunderstanding communication can come through
encoding messages, decoding messages, non-verbal medium, verbal medium
One can choose to purchase something less expensive or put off a purchase through using the
envelope system
Exchange theory suggests that marital satisfaction is associated with
equitable self disclosure
Research has determined that whatever their working status outside the home, women want _____ in marital and family arrangements.
equity
competitive symmetry
escalating conflict
The text points out that if the partners in remarriage do not feel that the financial arrangements are equitable, the marriage will be severely strained. This observation reflects ___ theory.
exchange
Molly trusts her husband's judgment about automobiles and lets him decide which car to buy. This illustrates which type of power in marriage?
expert
four types of interaction between former spouses
fiery foes, angry associates, cooperative colleagues, and perfect pals
According to a study of 80 divorced couples, about one in __ had a relatively high degree of co-parental interaction a year after the divorce.
five
types of grandparents
formal, fun seeker, surrogate parent, reservoir of family wisdom, distant figure
promiscuity
frequent and indiscriminate sexual relations with many partners.
The least expensive approach to adoption is through a
governmental agency
In the context of coping with infertility, people in the ___ stage may feel that God is punishing them for their sins or find other ways to blame themselves for the condition.
guilt
Competition
high self concern
According to the text's discussion of employment and marital satisfaction,
if family roles are negotiated and an equitable division of labor is established in the home, some of the major problems of the dual-earner family have been resolved
The extent of how hard it the transition to retirement is depends on
if the retirement was by choice or forced, financial situation, if both retire at the same time, and if they share activities together
A husband agrees to share household tasks with his working wife because he is committed to equality. Which of the following types of power in marriage is illustrated in this scenario?
legitimate power
Intellectual listener
listens only to the words, over analyze and nitpick and challenge their words instead of accepting or cueing in to nonverbal or feelings
Avoidance
low self and other concern, status quo
Net worth is equal to self-worth in which money script?
money status
Which was referred to as a helpful money script?
money vigilant
Research has shown that when fathers are substantially engaged in the care of their children, those children exhibit
more empathy
The text cites a study of eighth-graders that found that kids who had to care for themselves for 11 hours per week or more because of parental work reported ____ in comparison with others.
more family conflict
According to Zuo and Bian's research concerning household tasks and equity in China,
most of the couples agreed that the husband did more of the non-routine work
The text points out that students' reactions to the terms stepparent and stepchild is generally
negative
A(n) ____ may involve anything from a minimal exchange of information to extensive contact with the birth mother before and after the child is born.
open adoption
With the rise of industrialization and in the emerging industrial economy
paid labor became the essence of the meaning of work
Bob and Alice are a married, dual-career couple. Bob and Alice share parenting responsibilities for their two children. Alice is responsible for all of the housework. They are a _____ dual-career family.
participant
Faker listener
pretends, thinking of something else, doesn't pay attention
In the context of the six stations of divorce, the _____ is the central separation that occurs—the individual must accept the disruption of the relationship and regain a sense of being an individual rather than a part of an intimate couple.
psychic divorce
The idea that we will resist when someone tries to force us to engage in a type of behavior, even if that behavior is consistent with our attitudes, is called
reactance theory
In defining whom she considers as part of the family, Jamie includes her biological parents and her sister by those parents. She does not include her stepfather or her stepsiblings. This way of defining family is termed
retention
______ is the process of working out the nature of particular roles in the course of interaction.
role making
in the ____ dual-career family, both spouses are actively involved in family work, both child care and household tasks
role sharing
Leroy and Samantha are a married, dual-career couple. When Leroy comes home from work, he participates fully in both child care and household tasks. They are what kind of family.
role sharing dual career
three dual income arrangements
role sharing, participant, traditional
In the context of the types of dual-career families, the _____ family implements the principle of equity.
role-sharing
___ static can result from certain mannerisms, such as "you know," "uh," and exaggerated nonverbal gestures while speaking.
sender
John tells his wife Nancy that he is not angry with her. Despite his comment, Nancy notices that his face is distorted with emotion. This illustrates what kind of static?
sender static
The proportion of men in the labor force has been
steadily decreasing
Which of the following was mentioned as one that men use the most?
stonewalling
When neither spouse wants to control a situation and tries to give control to the other, they are practicing
submissive symmetry
Walter defines his family as his mother, stepfather, and brothers, and sisters. He considers his stepfather as part of the family but not a replacement for his biological father. This way of defining family is
substitution
A man asks his wife if she still loves him. She responds by smiling and kissing him. This reflects which function of nonverbal behavior?
substitution for words
______ theorists talk about "role-making," the process of working out the nature of particular roles in the course of relationships with others.
symbolic interactionist
In the ___ type of equalitarian marriage, the spouses share authority over all decisions.
syncratic
Nonaversive types of discipline is like
taking away toys, time outs, using explanations
The bulk of parents agree that the most difficult child-rearing period takes place during
teen years
Women are likely to do the bulk of the housework. After the birth of a child, women's workload
tends to increase
"Baby M," who was born to a surrogate mother, was eventually awarded by the courts to
the couple who had contracted with the surrogate mother to bear the child
According to the text's discussion of the long-term effects of divorce, which factor helps children to adjust better in both the short and long run?
the custodial parent functions well, the children's exposure to conflict between the parents has been minimal, the children have regular contact with the noncustodial parent
The 10-10-80 plan allows you to give, save, and spend no matter your income.
true
Angela thinks of her stepmother like a cousin or sister or aunt. In the context of the five styles of step-mothering, Angela considers her stepmother
type of kin
Positive parenting experience is more likely to happen when a stepfather
views parenting as his right and responsibility.
According to Fowers, which of the following should be included in marital communication?
virtues
A study of 130 newlyweds found that those couples in the happiest unions dealt with their problems by discussing them
with gentleness, soothing, and de-escalation of negativity
In reviewing the research literature concerning the satisfaction of raising children, Ann Goetting concluded that
women are more satisfied with parenthood when they also are able to fulfill whatever aspirations for work or career that they have
The text cites an analysis of the preferences of 253 men and women reporting that the most popular topic of conversation for both genders was According to Deborah Tannen's analysis of gender differences in a conversational style, ___
work and money
In _____ spillover, work demands or problems negatively affect family life.
work to family
Aversive types of discipline is like
yelling or spanking
