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The 7 Family-Financial Rules by Dr. Parry include all of the following except which?

Create a spending plan based on your shared feelings and opinions.

adversarial approach to divorce is

an approach that assumes one of the spouses is at fault.

In the context of the five styles of stepmothering, which of the following is the most common style?

an older close friend

The third stage of the process of coping with infertility is

anger

Of psychologist Constance Ahrons's four types of relationships between ex-spouses, _____ were those who could tolerate being in the same place with the ex-spouse but who still felt so hostile and bitter that they could not interact pleasantly.

angry associates

A sexual dysfunction is

any impairment of the physical responses in sexual activity.

One option for the infertile that involves injecting sperm into a woman's reproductive tract is

artificial insemination

AID

artificial insemination by donor

AIH

artificial insemination by husband

In the long run, adopted children function

as well as those raised by their natural parents

Does Dr. Parry suggests having money time when kids are awake and you and your spouse are seated on the couch watching TV together?

false

Dr. Parry found that married couples' shared goals and values were NOT directly correctly correlated with marital happiness, financial stability, and individual well-being.

false

Social scientists who specialize in interpersonal conflict have identified five different styles of fighting. Which of the following is not one of these?

instigation

Jane has just told her friend Jonathan about the great new swim instructor at the YMCA and which swimming strokes he taught first. Jane gives off many non-verbal cues about this new instructor, indicating a possible romantic or erotic interest in him. Jonathan ignores all the non-verbal cues and criticizes the instructor's style of teaching. Jonathan's style of listening is that of the

intellectual listener

The interrupter listener

interrupts, either with negative or even positive messages, either way the other person can't say what they want

Since she married Duncan, Candy does not feel that she gets enough time for herself. When Duncan proposes that they go out together, Candy refuses and asks him to go by himself. Duncan gets jealous and says she does not want to be seen with him. What is the underlying source of tension?

intimacy and privacy

vaginismus

involuntary spasms of the muscles around the vagina, preventing penetration by the penis or making it painful

Dependent listener

just desperately trying to please the speaker

In the context of destructive messages, the statement "You will have to be more forceful at work and demand a raise if you are going to be a good father and husband," illustrates

lecturing

Orbuch and Custer (1995) reported that when women defined their work as one of the most important aspects of their lives, their husbands

reacted negatively

In the context of the process of uncoupling, _____ frequently occurs when marital stress and open conflict are followed by a period of a cold war between the spouses.

recognition

four phases of uncoupling

recognition, discussion, action, post-dissolution

James defines his family in terms of the biological parents with whom he lives. This way of defining family is

reduction

If two lovers have developed their own special language, such as touching the fingers to the lips as a way of saying, "I love you," then they are using a nonverbal cue to ___ the message of love.

repeat

As a nonverbal cue, ____ the message stands on its own, without requiring words.

repeating

neutralized symmetry

respect and avoids exerting power

Self conscious listener

respond in order to impress or show status

Impotence

the inability to get or sustain an erection, is the most common problem among men

a loyalty conflict is

the internal stress that results when contradictory commitments are expected from different family members

The resource theory of power holds that

the person with more resources has more power.

what is the family cycle for step families?

the turbulent first two years, golden period, singing in the rain

The text cites longitudinal research concluding that the most powerful predictor of whether a couple will break up or stay together is

the way they handle their differences

In the context of impediments to communication, ________ tends to create the same emotions as ordering.

threatening

More than ______ of all married people who have paid work outside of the home live in a dual-income family

three fourths

The optimal time period between divorce and remarriage seems to be ____ year(s).

three to five

submissive symmetry is

to give control to the other, neither wants to take control of the situation

Can the second 10% of the 10-10-80 plan only be used to reduce debt.?

false

sources of power

income, emotional support, sexual availability, and parenting skills.

Which of the following statements illustrates the desire to have children as a personal and family legacy?

"Children will carry on our family name."

The text observes that some dual-career women may try to become the ______ the perfect mother, the best homemaker, the ideal wife, and the high-achieving career woman.

"superwoman"

Collaboration

(opposite of avoidance) high self and other concern, want optimal solutions

Accommodation

(opposite of competition) low self concern high other concern, speaks up but neglects their own needs, will always give in

How many Americans believe that divorce is morally wrong?

22 percent

the types of remarriage make how many combinations

24

By 2001, only ___ percent of husbands were the sole provider in a marriage.

25

The text cites a poll wherein it was discovered that even if women felt they had enough money to live comfortably without working

33 percent would work part-time, 15 percent would continue working full-time, 20 percent would do volunteer work

It is estimated that anywhere from ___ percent of the meaning we convey is through the use of nonverbal cues.

50 to 80

A pause, an emphasis on a particular word, and a touch illustrate which function of nonverbal cues?

Accenting the verbal message

different functions of nonverbal communication

Complement your words Contradict your words Repeat (like an inside joke of a special touch) Regulate Substitute Accent Trigger attributions they learn your unique signals Influence

According to the text's discussion, which of the following statements is true about well-managed conflict?

All, It helps to defuse more serious conflict. It helps people grow. It can create and maintain an equitable balance of power.

Which of the following statements is NOT true about divorce rates in the United States?

Among first marriages, one of five break up within eight years.

Mary is an only child. Her parents give her orders and expect her to obey them. If she does not follow their rules, she is punished. Mary's parents' use which parenting style?

Authoritarian

The text points out that the most responsible and well-adjusted children are generally produced by which of the following parenting styles?

Authoritative/Active

According to the studies by McLaughlin, Cormier, and Cormier about the women in dual-earner families, which of the following is NOT one of the time-management coping strategies cited?

Avoiding asking other family members for help

What behaviors usually characterize the action stage of marital dissolution?

Couples often argue and struggle over such things as the division of property.

Fred has recently remarried. In his first marriage, he devoted full attention to his wife. Now, he believes that he must "look out for number one" regardless of what this means for his marital relationship. Fred's behavior reflects which myth of remarriage?

Be an individual first and a couple second

virtues and skills from Fowers

Courage, strength, self restraint, compassion, empathy, charity

Which of the following statements is true about child care facilities?

Children 3 years of age and younger in child care have higher rates of communicable illnesses than do children reared in their homes.

Kinds of nonverbal communication

Clothing Facial expressions and eye behavior touching

three patterns of grief with the death of a spouse

Common, high level of grief and depression that decrease over time Resilient, low levels of grief and depression Chronic, high levels with short term and long term negative affects

Positive step-parenting experiences are more likely to happen when stepfathers do/have which of the following?

Communicate often and well with their stepchildren. Are supported by their wives in their involvement with and discipline of stepchildren. Have prior, involved parenting experience with their natural children.

The text concludes that inequality in household tasks among dual-earner and dual-career couples is explained by which of the following?

Differences in income. Wives not defining their unequal share of household tasks as unfair. The persistence of traditional role expectations.

Satir 1972 roles:

Distractor, change the subject, not listening Blamer, finding faults and finding someone to blame Computer, untrarational Placator, agreeable, trying to please

Which of the following statements is true about infertility?

Environmental pollutants can cause infertility in men.

The text observes that equity is a crucial part of a satisfying, intimate relationship. This observation is a reflection of which theoretical approach?

Exchange theory

Six types of power Raven, Centers, Rodrigues 1975 differing resources

Expert, common for men, influence someone because of special knowledge or expertise Legitimate, common for men, authoritative position Spouse has the right to ask and you have the duty to comply Referent, common for women, ability to influence someone because he or she identifies with and desires to please you Coercive, threat of punishment Reward, influence someone by offering rewards Information, arguing in terms of his or her best interests

What are the styles of listening?

Faker, Dependent listener, Interrupter, Self conscious listener, Intellectual listener

Which of the following is considered a certified professional?

Financial Counselor

Bill is determined to make his remarriage work, so he "walks on eggs," rather than confronting, challenging, or arguing with other family members. Bill's behavior reflects which myth of remarriage?

Focus on the positive and forget criticism

In terms of the text's discussion of divorce trends, what is the significance of the year 1974?

For the first time, more U.S. marriages ended by divorce than death of a spouse.

In Egypt, the Muslim marriage contract requires which of the following?

Husbands agree to a "dower." Husbands support their wives. Wives obey their husbands.

According to the text which of the following statements is true about the experience of parenting?

In the long run, women may receive more psychological benefits from child-rearing than do men.

Which of the following statements is true about the silent treatment?

It communicates that one person is angry and unwilling to discuss the situation or problem.

In the context of impediments to communication, which of the following statements is true about ridiculing?

It will generate more resistance and resentment than change and intimacy.

Marilee and Mark were both employed while they were married. They have been divorced about one year, and Marilee has custody of the children. Which of the following is likely to be true?

Marilee's standard of living has gone down since the divorce.

Klontz, Kahler, and Klontz (2016) found four main money scripts including all but which of the following?

Money flattery

what are the four money scripts?

Money worship, Money vigilance, Money status, Money avoidance

five types of stepmothers

Older close friend Type of kin Peer like girlfriend My fathers wife Another mother

Tony has parents who allow him to make his own decisions. They place virtually no rules or constraints on his behavior. His parents use which parenting style?

Permissive

Wally and Linda have accepted the fact that their marriage has ended; Linda attributes the divorce to Wally's love affair with another woman; Wally rationalizes his extramarital activities to Linda's loss of interest in sex. Wally and Linda are in which stage of marital dissolution?

Post-dissolution

After the people of Christ were so richly blessed, the text points out several reasons why this society fell, but which reason is the cause of the others?

Pride

Which of the following statements is true about a traditional dual-career family?

The wife simply adds the new role of a career woman.

Which of the following statements is true about boundaries in stepfamilies?

They are often not very clear-cut.

Which of the following statements is true about good listeners?

They nod or respond with "I see" or "That's interesting" to let the speaker know she or he is listening.

myths of remarriage

Things must work out, desperation or confidence Consider other people first, denies your own needs Be an individual first and a couple second, opposite extreme Focus on the positive and forget criticism, pretend Pseudomutuality Avoid mistakes of the past Marriage makes people happier

Dr. Parry suggest changing the name of the Pride Cycle to which of the following?

Prosperity Cycle

Which of the following is true about divorce in Japan?

Rates rose rapidly beginning in the 1960's. The majority of divorces are initiated by wives. About one in three Japanese marriages ends in divorce.

venereal diseases

Sexually transmitted diseases

Types of remarriage

Single, without kids, with custody, without custody, with custody of some

seven stages of coping with infertility

Surprise, denial, anger, guilt, depression, grief, resolution

Having a scheduled time to discuss money as a couple can help to prevent which of the following?

Sweeping money issues under the carpet, Cyclical money misunderstandings, Random arguments about money

Which of the following is an accurate statement about women in the labor force?

The fastest growing group of female workers is married mothers with children under 6 years of age.

four patterns of power in a marriage

Wife dominate Husband dominate Autonomic shared authority over separate things Syncratic shared authority over everything

In most nations, including the United States, if people could have only one child, more would prefer which sex?

a boy rather than a girl

When the wife is infertile or incapable of carrying a child, a couple may opt for _____ , wherein a woman volunteers to carry the baby of the couple and give it to them at the time of birth.

a surrogate mother

According to the text, power is defined as the ___

ability to get someone to think or act in a certain way

Complementary interaction

agreement where one is dominant and one is submissive

Robert identifies both his biological parents and his stepparents as family members. He sees his stepparents as an addition to the family. He enjoys moving freely between homes of his biological parents and feels little hostility between parents. This way of defining family is termed

augmentation

In ____, the approach is to put boundaries on acceptable behavior within a warm, accepting context.

authoritative parenting

Peggy resents Steve's lack of affection for her as his spouse. However, she does not say anything about this, because she wants to maintain peace between them. Her style of conflict is

avoidance

We should take the advice that the Savior told the rich man an

be willing to act when we receive an answer

Resources that determine power in families are

both material and non-material

Compromise

both self and other concern, moderation, seeks satisfying solutions

The biggest problem faced by remarried couples involves

children

Research has shown that the most frequently mentioned issue discussed by couples who are anticipating remarriage is

children from a previous marriage

The text points out that about two-thirds of all couples involved with marital dissolution experience Bohannan's ______ divorce.

co-parental

What are the five different styles of fighting?

collaborating, competing, avoiding, accommodating, and compromising

In the context of the styles of conflict, ___ is the opposite of avoidance.

collabortation

Those who remarry tend to assume and expect that the new spouse will be

committed to making the marriage last

Carrie and Jason are dissolving their marriage. Carrie is now uncomfortable with some of their former friends, particularly those who worked with Jason. She is attempting to cut ties with this group and develop her own set of friends. Carrie is going through which station of divorce?

community

In the context of the six stations of divorce, the ______ means that each of the partners leaves one circle of friends and relations and enters another.

community divorce

The ______ marriage is a dual-career marriage in which the spouses live in different locations and still maintain their dual commitment to work and to family.

commuter

John and Martha are looking for a house to buy. Martha says: "John, I will leave this decision up to you since you are better at making business decisions." John responds, "Thanks, you are right, and I will make the decision." The type of power interaction between John and Martha is

complementary interaction

_____ involves some concern about both one's own interests and the interests of the other.

compromise

Brother Tuttle said in conference that tithing has more to do with

faith than money

what are the 7 Family-Financial Rules by Dr. Parry

create shared values and goals, create a spending plan based on those values and goals, save for emergencies, create a financial plan based on shared future goals, insurance, reduce debt and invest for the future, protect and or give wealth based on shared goals

Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling

The second stage in the process of coping with infertility is

denial

anorgasmia

difficulty reaching or an inability to reach orgasm

The first step to stopping the negative communication is to

diffuse negativity

In the context of the process of uncoupling, _____ is the period during which one or both spouses begin to share the marital problems with others—friends, relatives, a counselor, and often each other.

discussion

The text cites a study of 90 couples, which found that those with satisfying marriages ____

divided up decision making so that each spouse had some power in the relationship

According to the text's discussion of gender differences regarding divorce,

divorce tends to raise the level of aggression in both boys and girls

Mike and Sheila are married. He works as an engineer and she as an accountant. They are best described as _____ family.

dual career

In her study of dual-career families, Gilbert identified three different arrangements. Which of the following is NOT one of these?

egalitarian

Those men who are more willing to assume some of the traditionally female tasks than men who are less willing tend to be

egalitarian, urban, non white, educated

six stations of divorce

emotional, legal, economic, co-parental, community, psychic

Misunderstanding communication can come through

encoding messages, decoding messages, non-verbal medium, verbal medium

One can choose to purchase something less expensive or put off a purchase through using the

envelope system

Exchange theory suggests that marital satisfaction is associated with

equitable self disclosure

Research has determined that whatever their working status outside the home, women want _____ in marital and family arrangements.

equity

competitive symmetry

escalating conflict

The text points out that if the partners in remarriage do not feel that the financial arrangements are equitable, the marriage will be severely strained. This observation reflects ___ theory.

exchange

Molly trusts her husband's judgment about automobiles and lets him decide which car to buy. This illustrates which type of power in marriage?

expert

four types of interaction between former spouses

fiery foes, angry associates, cooperative colleagues, and perfect pals

According to a study of 80 divorced couples, about one in __ had a relatively high degree of co-parental interaction a year after the divorce.

five

types of grandparents

formal, fun seeker, surrogate parent, reservoir of family wisdom, distant figure

promiscuity

frequent and indiscriminate sexual relations with many partners.

The least expensive approach to adoption is through a

governmental agency

In the context of coping with infertility, people in the ___ stage may feel that God is punishing them for their sins or find other ways to blame themselves for the condition.

guilt

Competition

high self concern

According to the text's discussion of employment and marital satisfaction,

if family roles are negotiated and an equitable division of labor is established in the home, some of the major problems of the dual-earner family have been resolved

The extent of how hard it the transition to retirement is depends on

if the retirement was by choice or forced, financial situation, if both retire at the same time, and if they share activities together

A husband agrees to share household tasks with his working wife because he is committed to equality. Which of the following types of power in marriage is illustrated in this scenario?

legitimate power

Intellectual listener

listens only to the words, over analyze and nitpick and challenge their words instead of accepting or cueing in to nonverbal or feelings

Avoidance

low self and other concern, status quo

Net worth is equal to self-worth in which money script?

money status

Which was referred to as a helpful money script?

money vigilant

Research has shown that when fathers are substantially engaged in the care of their children, those children exhibit

more empathy

The text cites a study of eighth-graders that found that kids who had to care for themselves for 11 hours per week or more because of parental work reported ____ in comparison with others.

more family conflict

According to Zuo and Bian's research concerning household tasks and equity in China,

most of the couples agreed that the husband did more of the non-routine work

The text points out that students' reactions to the terms stepparent and stepchild is generally

negative

A(n) ____ may involve anything from a minimal exchange of information to extensive contact with the birth mother before and after the child is born.

open adoption

With the rise of industrialization and in the emerging industrial economy

paid labor became the essence of the meaning of work

Bob and Alice are a married, dual-career couple. Bob and Alice share parenting responsibilities for their two children. Alice is responsible for all of the housework. They are a _____ dual-career family.

participant

Faker listener

pretends, thinking of something else, doesn't pay attention

In the context of the six stations of divorce, the _____ is the central separation that occurs—the individual must accept the disruption of the relationship and regain a sense of being an individual rather than a part of an intimate couple.

psychic divorce

The idea that we will resist when someone tries to force us to engage in a type of behavior, even if that behavior is consistent with our attitudes, is called

reactance theory

In defining whom she considers as part of the family, Jamie includes her biological parents and her sister by those parents. She does not include her stepfather or her stepsiblings. This way of defining family is termed

retention

______ is the process of working out the nature of particular roles in the course of interaction.

role making

in the ____ dual-career family, both spouses are actively involved in family work, both child care and household tasks

role sharing

Leroy and Samantha are a married, dual-career couple. When Leroy comes home from work, he participates fully in both child care and household tasks. They are what kind of family.

role sharing dual career

three dual income arrangements

role sharing, participant, traditional

In the context of the types of dual-career families, the _____ family implements the principle of equity.

role-sharing

___ static can result from certain mannerisms, such as "you know," "uh," and exaggerated nonverbal gestures while speaking.

sender

John tells his wife Nancy that he is not angry with her. Despite his comment, Nancy notices that his face is distorted with emotion. This illustrates what kind of static?

sender static

The proportion of men in the labor force has been

steadily decreasing

Which of the following was mentioned as one that men use the most?

stonewalling

When neither spouse wants to control a situation and tries to give control to the other, they are practicing

submissive symmetry

Walter defines his family as his mother, stepfather, and brothers, and sisters. He considers his stepfather as part of the family but not a replacement for his biological father. This way of defining family is

substitution

A man asks his wife if she still loves him. She responds by smiling and kissing him. This reflects which function of nonverbal behavior?

substitution for words

______ theorists talk about "role-making," the process of working out the nature of particular roles in the course of relationships with others.

symbolic interactionist

In the ___ type of equalitarian marriage, the spouses share authority over all decisions.

syncratic

Nonaversive types of discipline is like

taking away toys, time outs, using explanations

The bulk of parents agree that the most difficult child-rearing period takes place during

teen years

Women are likely to do the bulk of the housework. After the birth of a child, women's workload

tends to increase

"Baby M," who was born to a surrogate mother, was eventually awarded by the courts to

the couple who had contracted with the surrogate mother to bear the child

According to the text's discussion of the long-term effects of divorce, which factor helps children to adjust better in both the short and long run?

the custodial parent functions well, the children's exposure to conflict between the parents has been minimal, the children have regular contact with the noncustodial parent

The 10-10-80 plan allows you to give, save, and spend no matter your income.

true

Angela thinks of her stepmother like a cousin or sister or aunt. In the context of the five styles of step-mothering, Angela considers her stepmother

type of kin

Positive parenting experience is more likely to happen when a stepfather

views parenting as his right and responsibility.

According to Fowers, which of the following should be included in marital communication?

virtues

A study of 130 newlyweds found that those couples in the happiest unions dealt with their problems by discussing them

with gentleness, soothing, and de-escalation of negativity

In reviewing the research literature concerning the satisfaction of raising children, Ann Goetting concluded that

women are more satisfied with parenthood when they also are able to fulfill whatever aspirations for work or career that they have

The text cites an analysis of the preferences of 253 men and women reporting that the most popular topic of conversation for both genders was According to Deborah Tannen's analysis of gender differences in a conversational style, ___

work and money

In _____ spillover, work demands or problems negatively affect family life.

work to family

Aversive types of discipline is like

yelling or spanking