well 1000: Chapter 9

Learned Optimism

Optimists see problems in a clearer perspective as events that occur but can be resolved. Optimists tend not to blame themselves but see the problem in an objective manner and work to solve the problem

All of the following are true about intimate relationships EXCEPT:

The may lack emotional availability

Hardiness

The standard of an emotionally resilient personality. The capacity to deal successfully with stressful situations & turn adversities into advantages.

Trust

To rely on the integrity of a person and have confidence in them.

It is healthy to view loneliness as a

Trigger

The passive tendency is to "stuff" emotions instead of expressing honest feelings is extremely detrimental to health and to healthy relationships.

True

To become interdependent, we must first be independent.

True

Control, commitment, & challenge

What are the "three C's" that define the concept of personality hardiness?

Assertiveness

Which of the following is NOT a sign of co-dependency?

Make sure you control the conversation.

Which of the following is NOT good speaking advice?

Generally, men have a more difficult time expressing feelings than women.

Which of the following is TRUE about communication patterns between men and women?

Be more proactive about getting treatment when he's sick. Cultivate friendships & good relationships. He will have stronger immunity.

Wyatt has learned to be optimistic. Which of the following are characteristics of his optimistic outlook?

Assertiveness is

communicating clearly & honestly. Based on respect for yourself and others.

Aggressiveness

Bullying behavior; not based on respect for self others.

Assertiveness

A communication style based on respect for self and others in which feelings and thoughts are expressed honestly and forthrightly

Emotional Resilience

Ability to bounce back after difficult times.

Stable, Global, & Internal

According to Maier and Seligman, which three explanations for the causes of uncontrollable situations result in learned helplessness?

Challenges, events that occur but can be resolved.

According to positive psychology, optimists see problems as:

Glaring at someone, tension, anger, tight jaw, or clenched fists

Aggressive

Putting everything being said in the context of your own experience.

All of the following are components of healthy listening EXCEPT

Calmly looking directly into another's eyes, absence of anger and fidgeting, and showing a positive countenance, a gentle face, possibly smiling

Assertive

Integrity

Authentic,without pretense, sincere, taking responsibility for feelings & actions.

Fewer dental problems

Dr. Harry Reis, co-editor of the Encyclopedia of Human Relationships, presents 10 evidence-based ways that love and health connect through close long-term relationships. Which of the following is NOT one of the health benefits he presents?

Passiveness

Failure to express honest feelings; tendency to "stuff" emotions

A relationship is intimate only if sex is involved.

False

Presenting yourself in a positive and healthy way means doing what you think others expect of you.

False

True

Not having close personal relationships has been found to be as detrimental to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day or being an alcoholic.

Positive Psychology

Focus on mental health rather than mental illness, and on what people can do to foster greater happiness.

Which of the following are characteristics of intimate relationships?

Frequent relating, strong emotionally supportive bonds & deep feelings of belonging & approval.

True

Hardiness has become the standard of an emotionally resilient personality.

Lonely people tend to

Higher blood pressure, poorer nutrition, produce more cortisol, be more hostile.

Which of the following statements reflects personal responsibility?

I feel frustrated.

Avoiding eye contact, fidgeting, hiding, or slouching

Passive

True

The efforts you put forth to resolve differences may strengthen your relationships

Flow

taking emotional resilience to a higher level. Extraordinary feelings accompanied by lack of self-consciousness or awareness of time when fully engaged in an activity.