Chapter 8 - Connecting and Communicating with the Modern World

common law marriage

Cohabitation that is for a designated period of time and is legally binding in some states.

Friendships

Friendships are unique because they are voluntary relationships. Friends provide emotional stability, and having strong friendships may predict success in loving relationships.

Good Communication: Self Disclosure

Get to know yourself. Become more accepting of yourself. Be willing to discuss your sexual history with your partner. Choose a safe context for self-disclosure. Be thoughtful about self-disclosure via social media.

Confronting Couple Issues: Jealousy may be caused by

Overdependence on the relationship Severity of the threat High value on sexual exclusivity Low self-esteem Fear of losing control

open relationship

Partners agree that sexual involvement can occur outside the relationship.

cohabition

Partners live together in the same household but are not married.

enablers

People who knowingly or unknowingly protect addicts from the natural consequences of their behavior.

Kathy and Brian are in a new relationship. They think about each other constantly and spend as much time together as possible. Which aspect of a romantic relationship are they exhibiting?

facination

It is from our ________, the people present in our household during our first years of life, that we initially learn about feelings, problem solving, love, intimacy, and gender roles.

family of origin

According to anthropologist Helen Fisher, falling in love involves the secretion of a cuddle chemical, which is the hormone

oxytocin

codependent relationship

A self-defeating relationship pattern in which a person is controlled by an addict's addictive behavior.

The goal of conflict resolution is to A) constructively resolve points of contention. B) declare a winner and a loser. C) ensure that couples argue as little as possible. D) set a time limit on discussion of difficult issues.

A) constructively resolve points of contention.

Predictability, dependability, and faith are three fundamental elements of A) trust. B) friendship. C) attraction. D) attachment.

A) trust.

accountability

Accepting responsibility for personal decisions, choices, and actions.

A relationship in which two unmarried people with an intimate connection share the same household is known as A) monogamy. B) cohabitation. C) common-law household. D) civil union.

B) cohabitation.

Sharika sits quietly while listening to her sister, not providing her with any nonverbal feedback as she speaks. This is an example of: A) competitive listening. B) passive listening. C) active listening. D) reflective listening.

B) passive listening.

Intimate relationships fulfill our psychological need for someone to listen to our worries and concerns. This is known as our need for A) dependence. B) social integration. C) enjoyment. D) spontaneity.

B) social integration.

Characteristics of intimate relationships include:

Behavioral interdependence Need fulfillment Emotional attachment Emotional availability

According to anthropologist Helen Fisher, attraction and falling in love follow a pattern based on A) lust, attraction, and attachment. B) intimacy, passion, and commitment. C) imprinting, attraction, attachment, and the production of a cuddle chemical. C) fascination, exclusiveness, sexual desire, giving the utmost, and being a champion.

C) imprinting, attraction, attachment, and the production of a cuddle chemical.

When Neil received a midterm report saying he had a D in his chemistry course, Mariah told him about the tutors available. This is an example of A) appraisal support. B) emotional support. C) informational support. D) instrumental support.

C) informational support.

Other confronting Couple Issues

Changing gender roles: Modern society has very few gender-specific roles. Sharing power: The dynamics between men and women changed as women began enjoying their own financial success. Unmet expectations: The failure to communicate our expectations can lead to disappointment and hurt.

Strategies for Success in Relationships: Choosing a Romantic Partner

Choosing a relationship partner is influenced by more than just the chemical and psychological processes described in researchers' theories of love. One important factor is proximity, or being in the same place at the same time. You also choose a partner based on similarities. A final factor that plays a significant role in selecting a partner is physical attraction.

Committed Relationships

Commitment in a relationship means that there is an intent to act over time in a way that perpetuates the well-being of the other person, oneself, and the relationship. - Marriage - Cohabitation - Gay and Lesbian marriage and partnerships - Staying single - Parenthood

Three basic listening modes

Competitive, or combative, listening happens when we are more interested in promoting our own point of view. Passive, or attentive, listening occurs when we are genuinely interested in hearing and understanding the other person's point of view. Active, or reflective, listening is active in confirming our understanding before responding with our own new message.

Sofia is 30 years old, and she decides to stay single rather than get married. Which of the following is true regarding Sofia's decision? A) Sofia should feel pressured to marry by her family and friends. B) Sofia is unique as staying single is becoming less common. C) Sofia is in the minority of women aged 20 to 34, as most are married. D) Sofia can obtain intimacy through relationships with family and friends.

D) Sofia can obtain intimacy through relationships with family and friends.

All of the following are typical causes of jealousy except A) overdependence on the relationship. B) low self-esteem. C) a past relationship that involved deception. D) belief that relationships can easily be replaced.

D) belief that relationships can easily be replaced.

The power of all the people who could come to your aid with their resources is your A) social support. B) social potential. C) social network. D) social capital.

D) social capital.

self-efficacy

Describes a person's belief about whether he or she can successfully engage in and execute a specific behavior.

self-nuturance

Developing individual potential through a balanced and realistic appreciation of self-worth and ability.

monogamy

Exclusive sexual involvement with one partner.

Intimate relationships are a means of need fulfillment. They include:

Intimacy Social integration Nurturance Assistance Affirmation

Nonverbal communication

Nonverbal communication includes all unwritten and unspoken messages, both intentional and unintentional. Nonverbal communication can include the following: - Touch - Gestures - Interpersonal space - Body language - Tone of voice - Facial expressions

Characteristics of a health relationships / fundamentals of trust

Predictability means that you can predict your partner's behavior because he or she acts in consistently positive ways. Dependability means that you can rely on your partner to provide support in all situations. Faith means that you feel absolutely certain about your partner's intentions and behavior.

Where relationships falter

Relationship breakdown usually begins with a change in communication. College students are particularly likely to remain in unhealthy relationships because they may feel socially isolated. Honesty and verbal affection should not be abused to cover up irresponsible or hurtful behavior.

When and why relationships end

Relationships may end because of illness, financial concerns, or career problems. Unmet expectations, failure to communicate, and differences in sexual needs can all lead to the ending of a relationship.

Marriage

a traditional, committed relationship that involves entering into a legal agreement

Managing Conflict Through Communication

Some strategies for conflict resolution include: - Identifying the problem or issues - Generating several possible solutions - Evaluating the alternative solutions - Deciding on the best solution - Implementing the solution - Following up

self talk

The customary manner of thinking and talking to yourself, which can affect your self-image.

Jamie and Beth share their worries and concerns with each other on a daily basis. This is an example of fulfilling the need for_______ a) social integration b) affirmation c) enabling d) assistance

a) social integration

family

a recognizable group of people with shared roles, tasks, boundaries, and personalities.

Self-nurturance

developing your potential through a balanced and realistic appreciation of your worth and ability.

intimate relationship

relationship that consists of close bonds with family members, friends, and romantic partners and includes emotional attachment

self-concept

the way you define yourself

self-esteen

the way you evaluate yourself

Romantic relationships

typically (mature) include all the characteristics of friendships as well as the following characteristics related to passion and caring: - Fascination - Exclusiveness - Sexual desire - Giving the utmost - Being a champion or advocate