COM 220 Final IFAT

What is sexual fluidity? How is that concept connected with sexual orientation?

-Situation-dependent flexibility in women's sexual responsiveness -Fluidity is considered an additional component to a woman's sexual orientation

Provide 2 examples of Social Exchange Theory

1) Cost-benefit analysis: Someone is needy or annoying, different interests Ex: Someone is needy but they make you feel good 2) Reward: Attractive, positive, make you feel good Ex: *The bachelor- compare; does the good outweigh the bad?

Relationship dissolution

1) Differentiating: ("You like him I do not") 2) Circumscribing: ("Not tonight, I'm too tired to talk") *Psychological 3) Stagnating: ("You never take out the garbage") *Maintaining 4) Avoiding: ("I don't want to attend that with you") *Physical 5) Terminating: ("We're no longer Facebook official")

Relationship development (Knapp & Vangelisti)

1) Initiating: ("Hi, my name is Ryan. Nice to meet you.") 2) Experimenting: ("What kind of pizza do you like? Let's get cheese.") 3) Intensifying: ("Wow, we are really alike. I care about you too!") 4) Integrating: ("We should live together.") 5) Bonding: ("Will you marry me?")

Assumptions

1) Relationships are not linear 2) Relational life is characterized by change 3) Contradiction is the fundamental fact of relational life 4) Communication is central to organizing/negotiating relational contradictions

Levels of developing friendships

1) Role limited interaction 2) Friendly relationships 3) Moving towards friendships 4) Nascent friendship - relationship rules 5) Stabilized friendship 6) Waning friendship

Storge

A comfortable, even-keeled kind of love based on friendship and compatibility

Commitment

A decision to remain in a relationship

Eros

A powerful, passionate style of love that blazes to life suddenly and dramatically

Friendships generally begin with: A)Nascent friendship B) Role-limited interaction C) Stablized friendship D) Friendly relations. E) Initiation

A) Nascent friendship

Dyadic (Rollie & Duck)

Communication to the other

Neutralizing

Compromising/splitting the difference

Partners in relationships have __________________ throughout the relationship

Conflicting desires

_______________ refers to the extent to which family members are expected to adhere to family hierarchy and conform in beliefs, whereas __________________ refers to how open- and closed- communication is.

Conformity orientation; conversation orientation

Relational life is in ______________

Constant motion

True or False Women should not make eye contact to improve their probability of being selected.

False

True or False: The median age is approximately 25 for women, and higher for those who live in urban locations

False

True or false: 75% proportion of American women are married

False

True or false: Men do not disclose personal feelings or vulnerabilties to their friends

False

True or false: Relationship rules are spoken understandings that regulate how people interact

False

Trust

Involves believing in another's reliability (that he or she will do as promised) and another's effort to look out for our welfare and our relationship

Psychological Responsibility

Involves remembering, planning, and scheduling family matters

Separates

Live together but view their relationship more as a matter of convenience than a result of their mutual love or closeness

What should men have or do in their profile pictures according to the Modern Relationships chapter? List two ideas.

Look into the distance, looking for adventure, or with an animal

Protective families'

Low conversation and high conformity

Mania

Manic lovers have the passion of eros, but they play by ludic rules-a combination that can be perilous. Manics may obsess about a relationship and be unable to think about anyone or anything else

According to research, even now with online sites and mobile applications, the greatest influence of interpersonal attraction is: A) Nonverbal cues B) Love style or languages C) Trust D) Proximity E) Passion

Proximity

People try to ___________ their conflicting desires.

Reconcile

Conversation Orientation

Refers to how open or closed communication is

Conformity Orientation

Refers to the extent to which family members are expected to adhere to a family hierarchy and conform in beliefs

Internal tensions

Relationship stresses that grow out of people and their interactions. Three such tensions inlcude relational dialectics, diverse communication styles, and sexual attraction

Committed romantic relationships

Relationships between individuals who assume that they will be primary and continuing parts of each other's lives

Friends of the heart

Remain close regardless of distance and circumstances

Dual Perspective

We must understand our friends' perspectives, thoughts, and feelings

Novelty/Predictability

We need to do something new and different/I like the familiar rhythms and routines of our relationship

During this stage, friendship tend to rely on general scripts and stereotypes because they do not have enough personal knowledge of each other in a dual perspective. A) Nascent friendship B) Role-limited interaction C) Stabilized friendship D) Moving toward friendship E) Friendly relations

B) Role-limited interaction

According to Aziz & Kleinenberg, how should women orient themselves towards the camera in profile pictures. A. Straightforward or B. Flirting

B. Flirting

Less agreement about what a family is exists, but the majority of American still conceive a family as __________, ___________, & __________.

Blood, law, & kinship

Friends of the road

Change as we move along the road of life

Assertion

Clearly and nonjudgmentally stating what you feel, need, or want

____________ states that people apply economic principles to evaluate their relationships. A) Relationship repair theory B) Equity theory C) Social penetration theory D) Social exchange theory E) Selective perception theory

D) Social exchange theory

The counterpoint to evaluation is _____________.

Description

Hooking up

Engaging in some degree of sexual activity with a person with no expectation of seeing that person again, is an increasingly popular form of initial get-together

Grave-Dressing (Rollie & Duck)

Erasing everything of that person from your life

Primary styles of love

Eros, storge, and ludus

Disqualifying

Exempting certain issues from general topics or situations

Interpersonal conflict

Expressed tension between people who are interdependent, perceive they have incompatible goals, and feel a need to resolve thos differences

Equity

Fairness based on the perception that both people invest equally in a relationship and benefit similarly from their investments

Intimacy

Feelings of closeness, connection, and tenderness

External pressures

Friendships may encounter pressures from outside sources. Three such pressures are competing demands, personal changes, and geographic distance

Agape

Generous and selfless, they put a loved one's happiness ahead of their own without any expectations of reciprocity

Consensual Families

Have high conversation orientation and high conformity orientation

What is the difference between hearing and listening?

Hearing - Physiological activity that occurs when sound waves hit our eardrums. Listening - Active, complex process that consists of being mindfulness, hearing, selecting, organizing, interpreting, responding, and remembering.

Pluralistic families

High on the dimension of conversation and low on conformity

Openness/Closedness

I like sharing so much with you/There are some thing I don't want to talk about with you

Autonomy/Connection

I need my own space/I want to be close

Friendship relationship rules are __________, not _____________ understandings.

Implicit; explicit

Selection

In which we give priority to one dialectical need and neglect the other

Three dimensions of committed romantic relationships are:

Intimacy, passion, and commitment

Certainty

My way or the highway/close minded *Ethnocentrism aligns with certainty Example: Trying to talk to grandparents about sexuality and they don't understand because they believe it's wrong but you are more open minded

During the ____________ stage friends negotiate rules for their relationship

Nascent Friendship

Integration

Neutral

Provisionalism

Open minded/willing to hear other opinion's

Relational Dialectics

Opposing forces, or tensions, that are continuous and normal in personal relationships

Laissez-faire families

Parents and children have limited connection interaction, children are inclined to be relatively independent of parents, and family members may not feel close bonds

Ludus

Playful love

Secondary styles of love

Pragma, mania, and agape

Pragma

Pragmatic or practical love

Relational Culture

Private world of rules, understandings, meanings, and patterns of acting and interpreting that partners create for their relationship

Traditional Couples

Share a basic belief system and philosophy of life

Heteronormative

Stage 1: Establishing a family, Stage 2: Enlarging a family, Stage 3: Developing a family, Stage 4: Encouraging independence, Stage 5: Launching children, Stage 6: Postlaunching of children, and Stage 7: Retirement

Social Exchange Theory

States that people apply economic principles to evaluate their relationships: They conduct cost-benefit analyses

Independents

Stress their individuality. The relationship is important but never more important than each person's individual identity

Five Western expectations for friendship

Support, trust, acceptance, willingness to invest, and emotional closeness

Social (Rollie & Duck)

Telling your friends or your closest social group that you're breaking up with someone

Cyberbullying

Text messages, online comments and rumors, embarassing pictures posted online, and videos and fake profiles that are meant to hurt another person and are sent by email or smart phones or posted on social networking sites

Relationship Rules

Unspoken understandings that regulate how people interact

What is a dual perspective? How is it applied in friendships?

The ability to understand both your own and another's perspective, beliefs, thoughts, and feelings.

Ethnocentrism

The assumption that our culture and its norms are the only right ones

Self-disclosure

The intentional revelation of personal information about ourselves that others are unlikely to discover in other ways

Communication Climate

The overall feeling or emotional mood between people-warm or cold, safe or anxious, accepting or rejecting, open or guarded-that is shaped by verbal and nonverbal interaction between people

Placemaking

The process of creating a comfortable personal environment that reflects the values, experiences, and tastes of the couple

Neutralization

To negotiate a balance between two dialectical needs

What are the four types or families depicted by Fitzpatrick?

Traditionals, Independents, Separates, Mixed

True or False: Median age of first marriage remained between 20 and 22 from 1890 to 1980

True

True or false: 90% of American will marry or try to marry

True

True or false: Most friendships face the challenge of distance, and many friendships do not survive it

True

True or false: Women are more willing to tolerate less than ideal circumstances for friendship

True

Reframing

Two tensions are no longer in opposition Ex: Long distance relationships

Passion

What first springs to mind when we think about romance. Intensely positive feelings and fervent desire for another person

Investments

What we put into relationships that we could not retrieve if the relationship were to end

Ressurection (Rollie & Duck)

When you are moved on and ready to date again

Intrapsychic (Rollie & Duck)

When you think about breaking up with someone

Second Shift

Work that one partner usually, but not always, a woman-does after coming home from a shift in the paid labor force outside the home