Comm 3050 Final: Chaps 9-12
Three primary styles of love.
Eros, storge, and ludos
Unlike most relationships, friends are:
Voluntary
Which type of family has high conversation orientation and high conformity orientation?
Consensual
One of the two dimensions of trust is:
Emotional reliability
During the ____ stage, the addition of children decreases the amount of couple time and changes the focus of a couple's communication.
Enlarging a family
Describing his romantic relationship, bob says, "I fell in love the moment I saw her Doreen. It was love at first sight. I still light up when I see her." Which style of love is this?
Eros
According to the equity theory, people become dissatisfied with relationships if the scales of equity tip in one direction or another for any amount of time.
False
Bracketing involves interrupting in order to get clarification during conflict.
False
In a conflict situation, it is most important to focus on the content level of meaning rather than the relationship level of meaning.
False
It is important to use as much metacommunication as possible during conflict.
False
Lack of conflict is the biggest indicator of a health relationship.
False
Men are more likely than women to feel a relationship is breaking down if they and their partners communicate less frequently than they used to.
False
Romantic relationships rarely follow a developmental course.
False
Since there is no formal standards for friendships, there are also no consistent ideas for what counts as a friend or patterns of interaction between friends.
False
The meanings we assign to romantic relationships are entirely individualistic
False
When communicating about safe sex with a romantic partner, it is sufficient to ask the person if they have an STD.
False
place-making is a destructive force in romantic relationships
False
Don and Makiko smith have been married for five years. They are highly interdependent couple, are very emotionally expressive with each other, and have conventional views of marriage and family life. The smiths would best be categorized as which of Fitzpatrick's marital types?
Traditional
Americans have historically seen raising children as a primary objective of marriage, but it is no longer seen as a goal of marriage.
True
Couple satisfaction seems especially affected by equity in housework and childcare.
True
Diverse cultural backgrounds may create misunderstandings that strain friendships.
True
In a game called "blemish", one person pretends to complimentary but actually puts the other person down.
True
Marriage is occurring later than it used to
True
Social media allows parents to track and monitor their children in new ways.
True
The majority of Mediterranean cultures regard lively conflict as normal, valuable part of life.
True
The term conformity orientation refers to the extent to which family members are expected to share the same beliefs.
True
Unrealistic expectations about spending time together is one of the greatest problems that people in long distance relationships.
True
While not the basis of most female-female friendships, women do engage in instrumental activities such as doing favors with their friends.
True
Women are more likely than men to sustain ties with friends who live at a distance.
True
an individual's style of loving can be influenced by the love style of her or his partner.
True
pragma love types are more likely to use online matching services to specify their criteria for a desirable mate.
True
sexual orientation doesn't seem to be a major influence on how people see and deal with conflict.
True
Which primary expectation of friendship seems to be universal?
Trust
Lenny says I don't like to lose arguments. The way I figured it when you have a disagreement there can always be only one winner. Lenny's orientation to conflict is best described as:
Win-lose
Zach believes that in conflict situations the goal is to find a solution that all those involved can accept. This is described as:
Win-win
Clifford Notaris (1996) identified three key elements that influence satisfaction in long-term relationships:
Words, thoughts, and emotions
One indication that a friendship is in the nascent stage is that participations:
Work out private rules for interacting
In terms of love styles, all are true Except:
one's love still is permanent throughout life
the three secondary styles of love are
pragma, mania, agape
relational culture is best defined as:
private understandings, rules, and meanings that partners create
Specific communication behaviors that contribute to unproductive interpersonal conflict include all of the following except:
Asking questions for clarification
Qualities that set committed romantic relationships apart from other close relationships include:
Assumed permanence
Desi and Consuela are arguing about how to spend the tax refund they received. He says they should get the car fixed; she says they should go on vacation; he then suggests they fix the car and use any money left on vacation; she suggests they sell the car and be rid of the problem. Desi and Consuela are engaging in which pattern of unproductive conflict?
Counterproposals
For individuals socialized in the feminine speech communities, closeness in interpersonal relationships is primarily achieved through ____.
Dialogue
All of the following are American styles of business negotiation except:
Indirectly letting the other party know your bottom line
The feelings of closeness, connection, tenderness are associated with which dimension of love?
Intimacy
In which stage do partners typically engage in contradicting?
Later
Concerning the typical life cycle of families with children, the fifth stage is usually:
Launching children
All of the following are conflict management skills except:
Looking for points of disagreement
The most interpersonally constructive but passive response to relational conflict is the ____ response.
Loyalty
Mary says, "I like to shop around, it is hard to get someone interested in me, but I am not looking for anything serious" Which style of love?
Ludus
Which kind of love sees love as a game?
Ludus
The ____ stages of constructive conflict is marked by what Gotten calls agenda building
Middle
The _______ stages of constructive conflict is marked by what Gottman calls agenda building.
Middle
Which statement below is true of families?
People are choosing to stay unmarried more than ever before
What kind of love is practical love?
Pragma
As a rule, women assume most of the _____, which involves remembering, planning, and scheduling family life.
Psychological responsibility
After the first few years, couples experience a dip in marital satisfaction:
Regardless of whether or not they have children
Friendships generally begin with:
Role-limited interaction
If you show your love for a family member by doing chores without being asked, which love language do you rely on?
Service
All of the following are external pressures to friendships except:
Sexual attraction
People socialized in masculine speech communities tend to achieve closeness in interpersonal relationships primarily through:
Sharing activities
Which type of love grows out of common interests, values, and life goals?
Storge
the nature and dynamics of friendships change throughout life. All of the following statements are supported by research about these dynamics EXCEPT:
adolescent females tend to define their friends as groups of people.
A comfortable, even-keeled kind of love based on friendship and compatibility is:
storge
All of the following are forms of constructive communication except:
Counterproposals
During the _____ stage, a couple settles into marriage or a cohabiting relationship and works out expectations, interaction patterns, and daily routines for their shared life.
Establishing a family
Supporting a friend primarily involves saying nice things in order to make him or her feel better rather than giving honest opinions.
False
Which statement is true of grace?
?? grace involves forgiving someone for something they did.
Constructive conflict communication includes:
Agenda building
_____ states that people apply economic principals to evaluate their relationships.
Social Exchange Theory
Ngoc and Nikole have been friends for many years and share a high level of trust, their friendship is best described as being in the _____.
Stabilized friendship