Comm 3050 Final: Chaps 9-12

Three primary styles of love.

Eros, storge, and ludos

Unlike most relationships, friends are:

Voluntary

Which type of family has high conversation orientation and high conformity orientation?

Consensual

One of the two dimensions of trust is:

Emotional reliability

During the ____ stage, the addition of children decreases the amount of couple time and changes the focus of a couple's communication.

Enlarging a family

Describing his romantic relationship, bob says, "I fell in love the moment I saw her Doreen. It was love at first sight. I still light up when I see her." Which style of love is this?

Eros

According to the equity theory, people become dissatisfied with relationships if the scales of equity tip in one direction or another for any amount of time.

False

Bracketing involves interrupting in order to get clarification during conflict.

False

In a conflict situation, it is most important to focus on the content level of meaning rather than the relationship level of meaning.

False

It is important to use as much metacommunication as possible during conflict.

False

Lack of conflict is the biggest indicator of a health relationship.

False

Men are more likely than women to feel a relationship is breaking down if they and their partners communicate less frequently than they used to.

False

Romantic relationships rarely follow a developmental course.

False

Since there is no formal standards for friendships, there are also no consistent ideas for what counts as a friend or patterns of interaction between friends.

False

The meanings we assign to romantic relationships are entirely individualistic

False

When communicating about safe sex with a romantic partner, it is sufficient to ask the person if they have an STD.

False

place-making is a destructive force in romantic relationships

False

Don and Makiko smith have been married for five years. They are highly interdependent couple, are very emotionally expressive with each other, and have conventional views of marriage and family life. The smiths would best be categorized as which of Fitzpatrick's marital types?

Traditional

Americans have historically seen raising children as a primary objective of marriage, but it is no longer seen as a goal of marriage.

True

Couple satisfaction seems especially affected by equity in housework and childcare.

True

Diverse cultural backgrounds may create misunderstandings that strain friendships.

True

In a game called "blemish", one person pretends to complimentary but actually puts the other person down.

True

Marriage is occurring later than it used to

True

Social media allows parents to track and monitor their children in new ways.

True

The majority of Mediterranean cultures regard lively conflict as normal, valuable part of life.

True

The term conformity orientation refers to the extent to which family members are expected to share the same beliefs.

True

Unrealistic expectations about spending time together is one of the greatest problems that people in long distance relationships.

True

While not the basis of most female-female friendships, women do engage in instrumental activities such as doing favors with their friends.

True

Women are more likely than men to sustain ties with friends who live at a distance.

True

an individual's style of loving can be influenced by the love style of her or his partner.

True

pragma love types are more likely to use online matching services to specify their criteria for a desirable mate.

True

sexual orientation doesn't seem to be a major influence on how people see and deal with conflict.

True

Which primary expectation of friendship seems to be universal?

Trust

Lenny says I don't like to lose arguments. The way I figured it when you have a disagreement there can always be only one winner. Lenny's orientation to conflict is best described as:

Win-lose

Zach believes that in conflict situations the goal is to find a solution that all those involved can accept. This is described as:

Win-win

Clifford Notaris (1996) identified three key elements that influence satisfaction in long-term relationships:

Words, thoughts, and emotions

One indication that a friendship is in the nascent stage is that participations:

Work out private rules for interacting

In terms of love styles, all are true Except:

one's love still is permanent throughout life

the three secondary styles of love are

pragma, mania, agape

relational culture is best defined as:

private understandings, rules, and meanings that partners create

Specific communication behaviors that contribute to unproductive interpersonal conflict include all of the following except:

Asking questions for clarification

Qualities that set committed romantic relationships apart from other close relationships include:

Assumed permanence

Desi and Consuela are arguing about how to spend the tax refund they received. He says they should get the car fixed; she says they should go on vacation; he then suggests they fix the car and use any money left on vacation; she suggests they sell the car and be rid of the problem. Desi and Consuela are engaging in which pattern of unproductive conflict?

Counterproposals

For individuals socialized in the feminine speech communities, closeness in interpersonal relationships is primarily achieved through ____.

Dialogue

All of the following are American styles of business negotiation except:

Indirectly letting the other party know your bottom line

The feelings of closeness, connection, tenderness are associated with which dimension of love?

Intimacy

In which stage do partners typically engage in contradicting?

Later

Concerning the typical life cycle of families with children, the fifth stage is usually:

Launching children

All of the following are conflict management skills except:

Looking for points of disagreement

The most interpersonally constructive but passive response to relational conflict is the ____ response.

Loyalty

Mary says, "I like to shop around, it is hard to get someone interested in me, but I am not looking for anything serious" Which style of love?

Ludus

Which kind of love sees love as a game?

Ludus

The ____ stages of constructive conflict is marked by what Gotten calls agenda building

Middle

The _______ stages of constructive conflict is marked by what Gottman calls agenda building.

Middle

Which statement below is true of families?

People are choosing to stay unmarried more than ever before

What kind of love is practical love?

Pragma

As a rule, women assume most of the _____, which involves remembering, planning, and scheduling family life.

Psychological responsibility

After the first few years, couples experience a dip in marital satisfaction:

Regardless of whether or not they have children

Friendships generally begin with:

Role-limited interaction

If you show your love for a family member by doing chores without being asked, which love language do you rely on?

Service

All of the following are external pressures to friendships except:

Sexual attraction

People socialized in masculine speech communities tend to achieve closeness in interpersonal relationships primarily through:

Sharing activities

Which type of love grows out of common interests, values, and life goals?

Storge

the nature and dynamics of friendships change throughout life. All of the following statements are supported by research about these dynamics EXCEPT:

adolescent females tend to define their friends as groups of people.

A comfortable, even-keeled kind of love based on friendship and compatibility is:

storge

All of the following are forms of constructive communication except:

Counterproposals

During the _____ stage, a couple settles into marriage or a cohabiting relationship and works out expectations, interaction patterns, and daily routines for their shared life.

Establishing a family

Supporting a friend primarily involves saying nice things in order to make him or her feel better rather than giving honest opinions.

False

Which statement is true of grace?

?? grace involves forgiving someone for something they did.

Constructive conflict communication includes:

Agenda building

_____ states that people apply economic principals to evaluate their relationships.

Social Exchange Theory

Ngoc and Nikole have been friends for many years and share a high level of trust, their friendship is best described as being in the _____.

Stabilized friendship