Chapter 14

Discuss your feelings concerning growing older and dying. What fears do you have? How do you want to be treated? How do you want to be remembered?

Answer yourself

What is grief

All the feeling of sorrow and deep distress over death of a loved one

what are the 4 myths about marriage? Please summarize each one in 3 sentences.

"Marriage is just not worth it" - Most people believe this myth because tv shows dealing with "love", divorce, abortion, homosexuality, abuse, lying, and cheating. Even the prime- time "family" programs portray unstable family life and unresolved marriage conflicts. As a result, a young person grows up with the assumption that all marriages and in divorce and that avoiding the marriage commitment altogether is the answer. "But I thought it would be different"- Another myth about marriage is that marriage is the answer to all of life's problems, key to success and happiness. Marriage is a gift from God. Many people enter marriage with expectations that cannot be fulfilled. "If it doesn't work out, I will just a divorce"- The myth that divorce is the answer to a trouble marriage is also mistake. To think that if you have problems you will just divorce. When you enter the marriage agreement with this in mind, you better start swimming because the boat has already begun to sink. " "I have it all Planned out."- Do you and your friends even talk about how you life is going to be? Planning out your whole life, wedding, kids, job, or who you will marry. God doesn't frown on making plans and having goals and dreams. But planning things that you have no control over can leave you open for great disappointments.

Explain the changes in:skin and hair, skeleton and muscle, heart and circulation, lungs, abdominal organs, and senses.

1. Skin and hair: a gradual loss of elastic tissue in the skin cause the skin to sag. Hair loses its color, and the skin may develop "aging spots". 2. Skeleton and muscles: height decreases with age, the joints becoming stuffer, the bones lose calcium which causes them to become more brittle, and the muscles become weaker. 3. Heart and circulation: the heart has to work harder to pump the blood through the body, the arteries harden and thicken inside. Blood pry may rise, and the circulation of blood through the body gets worse. 4. Lungs: breathing ease is reduced because the tissues in the lungs become less elastic. 5. Abdominal organs: the organs lose their efficiency and the kidneys are slower to filter the impurities from the body. 6. Senses: a slow weakening of the senses. Especially the ability to focus on nearby objects. Hearing loss is also common. The ability to sense temperature changes may also occur resulting in a person dressing improperly for the weather conditions.

What are 3 excuses that compromise your dating standards?

1. We have so much fun together 2. Our relationship is different; we really love each other. 3. I know I should break up with him, but I don't want to hurt his feeling.

What are the 3 suggestions for the " dating game"? Please describe each one?

1.Group dating is going out with a group of friends 2.Make specific plans plan out your dates 3. Be creative in what you and the other plan to do

Discuss how you can know when you are going in " genuine love"

Recognize that love and sex are not the same

What is Dementia?

Disease that interferes with the normal working of the mind

What is the basis, goal, qualities and results for God's way vs culture's way?

Gods way Basis: wholesome attraction commitment to God friendship Goal: mutual edification and fulfillment of God's will Qualities: Giving attitude absolute moral standards Focus on spirit and soul Results: healthy self image Greater motivation Increased fulfillment Culture's way of Dating Basis: natural attraction Feeling, desires Goal: mutual gratification and fulfillment of self-will Qualities: Receiving attitude no absolutes, no standards focus on body and soul Results: unhealthy self-image decreased of motivation draining of motivation

When does physical changes start to appear as your body process slow down?

Mid-twenties

What are the 4 levels of friendship? What does each one mean?

One: Acquaintances based on casual contacts Two: casual based on common interest and activities Three: close based on mutual life goals Four: intimate level based on commitment to the development of each others character

Explaining the meaning of the phrase, " if you fail to plan, you plan to fail."

Plan dates in advance and be creative with what you chose to do

What are the common reactions to experiencing a loss? Explain each one.

Shock: after the loss of a loved one, many people do not express their emotions it is not that they do not want to, but they feel a sense of separation from their feelings, a feeling of numbness. Anger: it is common for a person who has lost a loved one to experience feeling of anger at the circumstances surrounding the death. People also may feel anger towards God for allowing the person to die Longing: The deep feeling of a loss brings a strong desire or yearning for the loved one to come back. Saying that you missed the person isn't even strong enough words to describe this intense feeling. Depression: The reality of the death brings a feeling of depression. The person knows her loved one isn't coming back. Going on: after a period of time after the loss, the person can go on with his/her life. He still misses the person, but the Strong grief he felt is lessening.

What is the divine order of relationship? Draw the diagram

Spirit- coming together in one spirit Soul- mental and emotional oneness Body- physical oneness

Explain why it is important not to have physical involvement in a relationship?

When you jump into physical involvement the results could be a unhealthy emotional bond and guilt

What are some questions to ask yourself when you are dating? What is the real purpose of dating according to the text?

Why do I want to date? What do I hope to get out of dating? What do I want to happen on a date? The real purpose of formal single dating is to pursue a marriage parents

what are the two types of love? Define each one.

agape: the most common word of all forms of love in the New Testament. Eros: most naturally used as intimate affection and liking to do things which are pleasant.

what is marriage?

an intimate personal union to which man and woman consent, consummated and continuously nourished sexual intercourse and perfected in a lifelong partnership of mutual love and commitment.

what are Rainey's five reasons for marriage?

mirror God's image multiply a godly heritage manage God's realm mutually complete one another model Christ's relationship to the church

what does 1 + 1 =1 mean?

when you commit yourself to another person in marriage. You become one in body, mind and spirit.