Counseling Couples & Families

counseling sessions should be meaningful encounters, this can be accomplished by

all of the above

getting the couple to act differently outside of counseling requires

all of the above

problems in marriage relationship can result in pain, hurt and anger. people often respond by

all of the above

which of the following is a common reason for why a spouse might be hesitant to come for counseling?

all of the above are common reasons.

for the author, how many sessions would he generally give to assess the marriage- its difficulties and the resources for solving these problems?

Three (3)

As children leave the immediate care of their parents, there usually is little change in the intimacy patterns in the family and there are generally few changes in family rules if the adolescents has been gradually allowed to have more responsibility.

True

Generally, a lack of clarity in the purposes of "preparing for marriage" classes has resulted in only small gains for the couples who attend such sessions

True

Though time and energy are devoted to children and their extracurricular activities, the couple's need for intimacy remain unchanged; unfulfilled intimacy needs often make a person ripe for an affair.

True

When one of both members of a couple retires, they might have more time for intimacy than they know what to do; retirement can be like starting anew in building a relationship

True

a general rule is to make the beginning of counseling as pleasant and conflict free as possible to increase the couple's hope and confidence that you can help

True

according to the author, while complete communication is extolled, at times, honest, truthful, complete communication can destroy a relationship.

True

as opposed to power rules, roles are formal summary statements of certain rules of a relationship and are generally recognized, even agreed, by the couple.

True

couples who did not work out their differences early in marriage through having some disagreements over the fundamental rules of their relationship, would probably have more conflict throughout the remainder of their marriage.

True

general life satisfaction across the family life cycle seem to peak after retirement for both husbands and wives

True

in early marriage, a couple can become dissatisfied with each other because they are privy to a spouse's distancing activities that they have never previously observed

True

in most instances, couples know how to communicate

True

marriage helps free us from the idea that god is exactly as we would like him to be

True

more helpful gains can be realized by couples who, AFTER they are married, attend counseling to adjust to marriage and transform their differences into workable relationship rules

True

psychologically, the adolescent's move away from home is traumatic, especially for the mother who has to reestablish meaningful work in her life.

True

the presence of individual psychological symptoms in a troubled marriage is one of the most difficult instances of treatment.

True

while setting positive goals, be realistic. Unbridled optimism can cause the couple to lose confidence in your competence

True

within the stages of counseling, the counselor can help couples increase their faith through two types of intervention: build intimacy and improve communication

True

which of the following is correct?

all of the above are correct -the more a spouse thinks about the legal obligations in marriage -some couples, by taking their marriage commitment to each other is so strong, -some couples who undervalue their commitment to each other

couples coming for counseling likely have one of the following presenting problems. which of the following is incorrect?

all of the above are correct.

the third task in joining the couple is to "create confidence in you as a counselor." this is accomplished by the following. Which is inaccurate?

all of the above are correct. -through good use of interpersonal skills -by providing thorough, accurate and sensible analysis -by being insightful -by balancing well

what are some difficulties associated with the frequent use of sarcastic humor?

all of the above are difficulties

techniques used should coalesce into a coherent treatment package and should have at least four characteristics. Which is not one of them?

all of the above are necessary characteristics for a coherent treatment package -they should be prescribed and standardized to such an extent that they are easily usable -they should be varied and individualized to be able to help a variety of couples -they should be clearly applicable at specified points in therapy

if couples have many disagreements, then relationships with many new decisions to make will often be characterized by the following. Which is not one of them?

all of the above characterize the couple -spouses have short tempers -spoused might feel as if their basic rights are being violated -spouses usually complain that their opinions are not valued -spouses moods are dominated by anger

which is incorrect? with regard to changes within marriage,

changes are inevitable and the healthy marriage must adjust to changes within minimum turbulence and with solutions that work well and protect the integrity of the individuals

typically, a high level of open conflict is seen through which two life cycle transitions?

child discipline begins and child entering adolescence

in cultivating new and positive patterns of intimacy, which of the following is not the right thing to do?

daily hour-long reading/studying/listening exercises and homework

which of the following is not a behavior that illustrates your positive attitude?

defend and justify your answers to their questions

each spouse takes turns to say "i like it when you.. because it makes me feel.." this is an example of

diagnostic games

the author identified three ideas about what religious therapy involves. To which did he personally ascribe?

drawing approaches from a number of secular theories but trying to integrate them into a christian framework that is consistent with scripture.

which is incorrect? with regard to the structure of marriage,

families are ordered so that people function diferently, seperately, and with each member fulfilling individualized roles

some relationship dynamics usually takes place during the honeymoon. which of the following is incorrect?

since the "honeymoon period" might last up to a year, any tension within that timeframe is usually forgotten and the couple starts afresh in their second year together.

the author identified four tasks in joining the couple, the first task is called "creating positive expectancies." which of the following meaning is incorrect?

teaching positive thinking in the couples

the final stage of counseling is ____. During this stage, space out _______ ______ so that there is more time in between sessions and provide a _____ ______ of what gains have occurred and where the couple needs continued work.

termination, meeting times, written evaluation

most couples report the lowest levels of marital satisfaction during

the adolescent and launching years

the couple is persistently engaged in negative interactions

the conflicted couple

being wise, "he imparted knowledge to the people.. pondered and searched out and set in order many proverbs.. searched to find just the right words.. who's responsibilty?

the counselor

the couple has lost the romance and most, if not all, positive interactions in their relationship

the disengaged couple

one of the spouses is not involved with the partner and over-involved elsewhere while the other feels responsible to maintain the relationship

the distancer-pursuer couple

"enmeshed", a couple tend not to engage in individual activities, confusing personal needs with the needs of the spouse

the overinvolved couple

a couple's rules of communication are

the repetitive patterns of a couple's communication

existing theories of the marriage have considered three levels of analysis. Which of the following is not one of them?

the spiritual well being of the individuals in the family

has a couple considered alternatives to marriage, is there a romantic involvement elsewhere, and is there children involved? these are some questions to assess

their actual commitment to the marriage

the communication rules of interest during assessment are the following. which is not one of them?

those that are conclusive remarks concerning the status of the relationship

intimacy can break down in the following manner. which is least likely to cause intimacy to break down?

through behavior patterns carried into marriage relationship from family of origin.

transitions through each stage of the family life cycle generally disrupt normal functioning. how couples fare through transitions depend on three factors. which of the following is not one of them?

transitions typically entail costs. couples who are secured financially will suffer the least negative effects during life transitions

one way to produce change in the couple includes presenting a positive conceptualization. which of the following is incorrect?

understanding that reacting negatively is not a natural response

seeing couples together, conjointly,

A & C, but not B -has a higher success rate than seeing couples individually -is sometimes impossible and counseling can only continue individually

When counseling couples early in marriage, the goal is to help them prevent conflicts in the first place.

False

counselors should rely on publish inventories when assessing a couples marital satisfaction. simply asking them how they feel about their marriages will yield little useful information

False

even though unhappy couples have lower marriage satisfaction at all points in the family life cycle than happy couples, similar to happy couples, they generally recover to their previous levels of marriage satisfaction after children are launched

False

generally, marriage satisfaction for happy couples decrease after the launching of children while unhappy couples increase

False

happily married couples will have no difficulty expressing positive feelings towards each other

False

most married could are romantically attracted to each other, which is necessary for a satisfactory marriage

False

power imbalances between couples always lead to instabilities and dissatisfactions

False

The grandparents' need for intimacy continues but they will call on their social network far more than their children for meeting those needs.

Falsee

while couples' responses to initial assessments are generally positive, they typically go through the S-E-R cycle during the intervention. S-E-R stands for

Surge-Euphoria-Relapse

the theory is more concerned about processes and changes as individuals, couples or families move from one phase of life to the next

TRANSITION

this theory identify tasks that must be accomplished

STAGE

this theory tell what happens during a relatively long period of time in the life of an individual, couple or family

STAGE

you ask good questions of the couple and encourage them to discuss their perceptions of their marriage. you rely on the information they provide, the observations and record notes that you've made. these elements are

a clinical interview

which of the following is not true about writing an assessment report?

a written report will disallow a couple to check counselor understands or correct what is assessed.

one of the first tasks with any person who seeks your help is to determine who the client is. this means..

all the above -recognizing that you can't solve everyones problems -counseling just isnt that powerful -you can only hope to make some limited changes that relieve immediate discomfort

the first stage involves a thorough ______ and culminates in a written report to the couple

assessment

providing verbal information when joining the marriage is important. which of the following is incorrect?

be realistic, not optimistic.

the fourth task in joining the couple is to "create momentum for success." this is accomplished primarily by the following. Which is not one of them?

by proving solutions to the couple early in the assessment process

which of the following is not true? when the first child is born,

conflicts between the couple are pronounced or intense even if they have low conflicts before the birth

goal setting is the activity that as much as any bespeaks the success or failure of counseling. there are three parts of goal setting. which is not one of them?

convicting couples to adopt goals that conform to your assessment of their needs.

when using techniques of change, which of the following is incorrect?

counselor should follow theoretical premises rigidly for techniques to be effective.

which of the following statements about power imbalance is not true?

counselors can present themselves as allies by siding with the more powerful spouse in order to create therepeutic alliance

the author identified five stages to any helping relationship. which is incorrect?

counselors must help clients understand the problem from the point of view of the counselor since clients are typically unable to see their own problems objectively

which of the following is incorrect?

counselors must walk a fine line between stimulating too much or too little interactions between the spouses: allowing them to work out their difficulties but in a controlled setting.

the biggest struggle during the retired years is to satisfy needs for

effectance

which of the following is the terminology/ies used to denote the enduring parts of the individuals' physical surroundings and the momentary occurrences that people perceive their interpersonal interactions?

environmental structure & events

which of the following is potentially more detrimental?

grandparents who have kept control of a child even after the child is married and has become a parent

processes of change require the following. Which is incorrect?

identify the causes of the problems or the individuals producing the cause.

in the analogy of striking the right "bowling pin," almost all family & couple counseling has one clear objective:

improving the marital relationship

the second stage is what he calls "increasing their faith: through building ____ and bettering a couple's _____ (including reducing their conflict.) In each instance, the counselor must help them (a) _____ and (b) ______

imtimacy, communication, break old patterns of behavior, build new ones

getting couples to collaborate and cooperate towards change means that a counselor should be mindful to do the following. Which is incorrect?

reject or disallow non or partial compliance

the author frequently cautioned against intervening too early. of the reasons given, which of the following is not accurate?

intervening too early gives the impression of compliance to the managed-care system.

the author described four distinctives of christian counseling. which is not one of them?

it should be based or housed in a church context or setting

a good assessment should be parsimonious. this means..

it should be quick and efficient, yet complete enough to provide a good base for intervention

a good assessment should be linked to a theory of intervention. this means..

it should be relevant to treatment, not just because they provide interesting information about the couple.

the third stage is to help couple's __________

maintain their changes

the divorce of christians can be enormously detrimental and potent, sending shock waves throughout the Christendom. This statement highlights the fact that

marriage is powerful

which is incorrect? with regard to the operation of a marriage,

marriages are governed by rule explicitly discussed by the husband and wife, not behavior patterns or who might make the decisions under certain circumstances

which is least likely to occur?

most cohabiting couples tend to be just as committed as married couples and show similar levels of willingness to work the problems out of their relationships.

some reasons are given for setting session limits for counseling. Which is incorrect?

most insurance company dictate the number of sessions you can have with clients

a counselor structures the counseling sessions, builds recognition between the couple of their responsibilites, provide opportunities to break up old patterns and practice new behaviors. these are tasks involved in

setting working goals

each individual possesses some basic needs. which of the following is considered healthy?

only a and b, but not c -we experience a direct yearning for god -we experience an indirect need for God

when the first child enters adolescence, numerous changes occur within the family. which of the following is incorrect?

parents can lessen conflict by giving the adolescent independence solely on demand, not before.

couples bring into their marriages two types of expectations. Which is more likely to govern perceived needs, be behind disagreements, power and control within marriage relationships?

personal expectations

which of the following is a level 1 conflict?

problems which are recent and issue-focused.

the second and third stages require frequent ______. Interventions are assigned, tried (or not tried) by the couple, discussed in the following session and followed by additional interventions.

recycling

the second task in joining the couple is to "create a cooperative attitude." this means

reducing their fears of the unknown by telling them reasons for your suggestions and by explaining what will happen throughout the counseling

in general, the empty nest years have high potential to be some of the happiest years of the married life. which of the following stressors is least likely to contribute to divorce?

with children occupying little demands on their time, couples have to reestablish relationship rules to govern the husband-wife relationship.