Counseling Couples & Families
counseling sessions should be meaningful encounters, this can be accomplished by
all of the above
getting the couple to act differently outside of counseling requires
all of the above
problems in marriage relationship can result in pain, hurt and anger. people often respond by
all of the above
which of the following is a common reason for why a spouse might be hesitant to come for counseling?
all of the above are common reasons.
for the author, how many sessions would he generally give to assess the marriage- its difficulties and the resources for solving these problems?
Three (3)
As children leave the immediate care of their parents, there usually is little change in the intimacy patterns in the family and there are generally few changes in family rules if the adolescents has been gradually allowed to have more responsibility.
True
Generally, a lack of clarity in the purposes of "preparing for marriage" classes has resulted in only small gains for the couples who attend such sessions
True
Though time and energy are devoted to children and their extracurricular activities, the couple's need for intimacy remain unchanged; unfulfilled intimacy needs often make a person ripe for an affair.
True
When one of both members of a couple retires, they might have more time for intimacy than they know what to do; retirement can be like starting anew in building a relationship
True
a general rule is to make the beginning of counseling as pleasant and conflict free as possible to increase the couple's hope and confidence that you can help
True
according to the author, while complete communication is extolled, at times, honest, truthful, complete communication can destroy a relationship.
True
as opposed to power rules, roles are formal summary statements of certain rules of a relationship and are generally recognized, even agreed, by the couple.
True
couples who did not work out their differences early in marriage through having some disagreements over the fundamental rules of their relationship, would probably have more conflict throughout the remainder of their marriage.
True
general life satisfaction across the family life cycle seem to peak after retirement for both husbands and wives
True
in early marriage, a couple can become dissatisfied with each other because they are privy to a spouse's distancing activities that they have never previously observed
True
in most instances, couples know how to communicate
True
marriage helps free us from the idea that god is exactly as we would like him to be
True
more helpful gains can be realized by couples who, AFTER they are married, attend counseling to adjust to marriage and transform their differences into workable relationship rules
True
psychologically, the adolescent's move away from home is traumatic, especially for the mother who has to reestablish meaningful work in her life.
True
the presence of individual psychological symptoms in a troubled marriage is one of the most difficult instances of treatment.
True
while setting positive goals, be realistic. Unbridled optimism can cause the couple to lose confidence in your competence
True
within the stages of counseling, the counselor can help couples increase their faith through two types of intervention: build intimacy and improve communication
True
which of the following is correct?
all of the above are correct -the more a spouse thinks about the legal obligations in marriage -some couples, by taking their marriage commitment to each other is so strong, -some couples who undervalue their commitment to each other
couples coming for counseling likely have one of the following presenting problems. which of the following is incorrect?
all of the above are correct.
the third task in joining the couple is to "create confidence in you as a counselor." this is accomplished by the following. Which is inaccurate?
all of the above are correct. -through good use of interpersonal skills -by providing thorough, accurate and sensible analysis -by being insightful -by balancing well
what are some difficulties associated with the frequent use of sarcastic humor?
all of the above are difficulties
techniques used should coalesce into a coherent treatment package and should have at least four characteristics. Which is not one of them?
all of the above are necessary characteristics for a coherent treatment package -they should be prescribed and standardized to such an extent that they are easily usable -they should be varied and individualized to be able to help a variety of couples -they should be clearly applicable at specified points in therapy
if couples have many disagreements, then relationships with many new decisions to make will often be characterized by the following. Which is not one of them?
all of the above characterize the couple -spouses have short tempers -spoused might feel as if their basic rights are being violated -spouses usually complain that their opinions are not valued -spouses moods are dominated by anger
which is incorrect? with regard to changes within marriage,
changes are inevitable and the healthy marriage must adjust to changes within minimum turbulence and with solutions that work well and protect the integrity of the individuals
typically, a high level of open conflict is seen through which two life cycle transitions?
child discipline begins and child entering adolescence
in cultivating new and positive patterns of intimacy, which of the following is not the right thing to do?
daily hour-long reading/studying/listening exercises and homework
which of the following is not a behavior that illustrates your positive attitude?
defend and justify your answers to their questions
each spouse takes turns to say "i like it when you.. because it makes me feel.." this is an example of
diagnostic games
the author identified three ideas about what religious therapy involves. To which did he personally ascribe?
drawing approaches from a number of secular theories but trying to integrate them into a christian framework that is consistent with scripture.
which is incorrect? with regard to the structure of marriage,
families are ordered so that people function diferently, seperately, and with each member fulfilling individualized roles
some relationship dynamics usually takes place during the honeymoon. which of the following is incorrect?
since the "honeymoon period" might last up to a year, any tension within that timeframe is usually forgotten and the couple starts afresh in their second year together.
the author identified four tasks in joining the couple, the first task is called "creating positive expectancies." which of the following meaning is incorrect?
teaching positive thinking in the couples
the final stage of counseling is ____. During this stage, space out _______ ______ so that there is more time in between sessions and provide a _____ ______ of what gains have occurred and where the couple needs continued work.
termination, meeting times, written evaluation
most couples report the lowest levels of marital satisfaction during
the adolescent and launching years
the couple is persistently engaged in negative interactions
the conflicted couple
being wise, "he imparted knowledge to the people.. pondered and searched out and set in order many proverbs.. searched to find just the right words.. who's responsibilty?
the counselor
the couple has lost the romance and most, if not all, positive interactions in their relationship
the disengaged couple
one of the spouses is not involved with the partner and over-involved elsewhere while the other feels responsible to maintain the relationship
the distancer-pursuer couple
"enmeshed", a couple tend not to engage in individual activities, confusing personal needs with the needs of the spouse
the overinvolved couple
a couple's rules of communication are
the repetitive patterns of a couple's communication
existing theories of the marriage have considered three levels of analysis. Which of the following is not one of them?
the spiritual well being of the individuals in the family
has a couple considered alternatives to marriage, is there a romantic involvement elsewhere, and is there children involved? these are some questions to assess
their actual commitment to the marriage
the communication rules of interest during assessment are the following. which is not one of them?
those that are conclusive remarks concerning the status of the relationship
intimacy can break down in the following manner. which is least likely to cause intimacy to break down?
through behavior patterns carried into marriage relationship from family of origin.
transitions through each stage of the family life cycle generally disrupt normal functioning. how couples fare through transitions depend on three factors. which of the following is not one of them?
transitions typically entail costs. couples who are secured financially will suffer the least negative effects during life transitions
one way to produce change in the couple includes presenting a positive conceptualization. which of the following is incorrect?
understanding that reacting negatively is not a natural response
seeing couples together, conjointly,
A & C, but not B -has a higher success rate than seeing couples individually -is sometimes impossible and counseling can only continue individually
When counseling couples early in marriage, the goal is to help them prevent conflicts in the first place.
False
counselors should rely on publish inventories when assessing a couples marital satisfaction. simply asking them how they feel about their marriages will yield little useful information
False
even though unhappy couples have lower marriage satisfaction at all points in the family life cycle than happy couples, similar to happy couples, they generally recover to their previous levels of marriage satisfaction after children are launched
False
generally, marriage satisfaction for happy couples decrease after the launching of children while unhappy couples increase
False
happily married couples will have no difficulty expressing positive feelings towards each other
False
most married could are romantically attracted to each other, which is necessary for a satisfactory marriage
False
power imbalances between couples always lead to instabilities and dissatisfactions
False
The grandparents' need for intimacy continues but they will call on their social network far more than their children for meeting those needs.
Falsee
while couples' responses to initial assessments are generally positive, they typically go through the S-E-R cycle during the intervention. S-E-R stands for
Surge-Euphoria-Relapse
the theory is more concerned about processes and changes as individuals, couples or families move from one phase of life to the next
TRANSITION
this theory identify tasks that must be accomplished
STAGE
this theory tell what happens during a relatively long period of time in the life of an individual, couple or family
STAGE
you ask good questions of the couple and encourage them to discuss their perceptions of their marriage. you rely on the information they provide, the observations and record notes that you've made. these elements are
a clinical interview
which of the following is not true about writing an assessment report?
a written report will disallow a couple to check counselor understands or correct what is assessed.
one of the first tasks with any person who seeks your help is to determine who the client is. this means..
all the above -recognizing that you can't solve everyones problems -counseling just isnt that powerful -you can only hope to make some limited changes that relieve immediate discomfort
the first stage involves a thorough ______ and culminates in a written report to the couple
assessment
providing verbal information when joining the marriage is important. which of the following is incorrect?
be realistic, not optimistic.
the fourth task in joining the couple is to "create momentum for success." this is accomplished primarily by the following. Which is not one of them?
by proving solutions to the couple early in the assessment process
which of the following is not true? when the first child is born,
conflicts between the couple are pronounced or intense even if they have low conflicts before the birth
goal setting is the activity that as much as any bespeaks the success or failure of counseling. there are three parts of goal setting. which is not one of them?
convicting couples to adopt goals that conform to your assessment of their needs.
when using techniques of change, which of the following is incorrect?
counselor should follow theoretical premises rigidly for techniques to be effective.
which of the following statements about power imbalance is not true?
counselors can present themselves as allies by siding with the more powerful spouse in order to create therepeutic alliance
the author identified five stages to any helping relationship. which is incorrect?
counselors must help clients understand the problem from the point of view of the counselor since clients are typically unable to see their own problems objectively
which of the following is incorrect?
counselors must walk a fine line between stimulating too much or too little interactions between the spouses: allowing them to work out their difficulties but in a controlled setting.
the biggest struggle during the retired years is to satisfy needs for
effectance
which of the following is the terminology/ies used to denote the enduring parts of the individuals' physical surroundings and the momentary occurrences that people perceive their interpersonal interactions?
environmental structure & events
which of the following is potentially more detrimental?
grandparents who have kept control of a child even after the child is married and has become a parent
processes of change require the following. Which is incorrect?
identify the causes of the problems or the individuals producing the cause.
in the analogy of striking the right "bowling pin," almost all family & couple counseling has one clear objective:
improving the marital relationship
the second stage is what he calls "increasing their faith: through building ____ and bettering a couple's _____ (including reducing their conflict.) In each instance, the counselor must help them (a) _____ and (b) ______
imtimacy, communication, break old patterns of behavior, build new ones
getting couples to collaborate and cooperate towards change means that a counselor should be mindful to do the following. Which is incorrect?
reject or disallow non or partial compliance
the author frequently cautioned against intervening too early. of the reasons given, which of the following is not accurate?
intervening too early gives the impression of compliance to the managed-care system.
the author described four distinctives of christian counseling. which is not one of them?
it should be based or housed in a church context or setting
a good assessment should be parsimonious. this means..
it should be quick and efficient, yet complete enough to provide a good base for intervention
a good assessment should be linked to a theory of intervention. this means..
it should be relevant to treatment, not just because they provide interesting information about the couple.
the third stage is to help couple's __________
maintain their changes
the divorce of christians can be enormously detrimental and potent, sending shock waves throughout the Christendom. This statement highlights the fact that
marriage is powerful
which is incorrect? with regard to the operation of a marriage,
marriages are governed by rule explicitly discussed by the husband and wife, not behavior patterns or who might make the decisions under certain circumstances
which is least likely to occur?
most cohabiting couples tend to be just as committed as married couples and show similar levels of willingness to work the problems out of their relationships.
some reasons are given for setting session limits for counseling. Which is incorrect?
most insurance company dictate the number of sessions you can have with clients
a counselor structures the counseling sessions, builds recognition between the couple of their responsibilites, provide opportunities to break up old patterns and practice new behaviors. these are tasks involved in
setting working goals
each individual possesses some basic needs. which of the following is considered healthy?
only a and b, but not c -we experience a direct yearning for god -we experience an indirect need for God
when the first child enters adolescence, numerous changes occur within the family. which of the following is incorrect?
parents can lessen conflict by giving the adolescent independence solely on demand, not before.
couples bring into their marriages two types of expectations. Which is more likely to govern perceived needs, be behind disagreements, power and control within marriage relationships?
personal expectations
which of the following is a level 1 conflict?
problems which are recent and issue-focused.
the second and third stages require frequent ______. Interventions are assigned, tried (or not tried) by the couple, discussed in the following session and followed by additional interventions.
recycling
the second task in joining the couple is to "create a cooperative attitude." this means
reducing their fears of the unknown by telling them reasons for your suggestions and by explaining what will happen throughout the counseling
in general, the empty nest years have high potential to be some of the happiest years of the married life. which of the following stressors is least likely to contribute to divorce?
with children occupying little demands on their time, couples have to reestablish relationship rules to govern the husband-wife relationship.