habits study guide

Paradigms: Define paradigms and paradigm shifts and how they are essential to the results you seek.

- Paradigms are how you view yourself or life in general - A paradigm shift means to fix your paradigm into a positive outlook - Paradigm shifts allow you to build your mindset to be more positive

Principles: What are the principes of Habit 7?

- balance is best - keeps you fresh - increase your capacity to produce and handle challenges around you

Principles: What are the principles of habit 6?

- innovate and problem solve - habit of creative cooperation - teamwork, open mindness, and adventure * Put simply two heads are better then one

Seeking to be understood: What is the key to respectfully "seeking to be understood"?

- listen before you talk - listen to understand not with the intenet to reply

Weekly planning: What are the steps to succesful weekly planning?

1. Set aside 15 minutes to plan at a consistent time each week. 2. Review your personal mission statement and long-term goals. 3. Identify your Big Rocks for your main roles. 4. Schedule your BIg Rocks 5. Insert the little rocks into your schedule (anything that isn't a Big Rock.) 6. Write your big rocks, ex; term paper and exercise everyday. 7. Fill in your little rocks, ex; going out w/friends or watching TV 8. Plan out big rocks as bigger priority and sprinkle in little rocks when there's extra time.

Daily planning: What are the benefits of daily planning?

1. Start with an empty bucket and fill it with big rocks. 2. If something happens to disturb your plans, proactively adapt by choosing an alternative that matches your mission and goals. 3. You will be able to focus on your goal for each day, accomplish things faster, and have more time for the little things that make you happy.

The matrix: What are the different quadrants of the time matrix and what activities are in each?

1. important & urgent (last minute deadlines and medical emergency) 2. important & not urgent (best one) (family time, building relationships) 3. urgent & not important (other people's issues and irrelevant meetings) 4. not important and not urgent (excess time wasters)

What is the idea behind the concept of "pause and respond"? What happens when a person does not use "pause and respond"?

5 steps to follow 1. examine your thoughts, moods, behaviors 2. consider what might happen as a result of my response 3. what do you truly believe is the right way to respond 4. recognize you have the ability to maintain control 5. what language are you gonna use in your response *if you do not follow these steps you will be reactive and explosive make the situation worse

Emotional bank account: What is the purpose of an Emotional bank account? What are the characteristics of an EBA?

An emotional bank account is an account of trust instead of money. It's an account based on how safe you feel with another person. There are deposits and withdrawals, and there are 6 ways to add to someone's account; Understanding the Individual, Keeping Commitments, Clarifying Expectations, Attending to the little things, Showing personal Integrity, Apologizing when we make a withdrawal.

Withdrawals: What behaviors might lead to withdrawals from Emotional Bank accounts?

Being disrespectful, being proud or arrogant, or actions that betray the trust of your friends are behaviors that lead to withdrawals.

Big rocks: What are the characteristics of Big rocks? How can you apply big rocks to weekly planning?

Big Rocks are the things in your life that should take up the most importance and the most time. To apply these big rocks and make sure you have time to complete them, you must do them before you do the other smaller things that do not matter as much.

Circle of influence: What is the circle of influence and how is it different from the circle of concern? Can you identify what is within each of your circles? What is the effect of focusing on your circle of influence?

Circle of influence: thing that I can control/influence. Ex; language, sleep habits, volume of my voice. Circle of concern: things you can't control/influence. Ex; height, weather, the past. People who focus their energies on their circle of influence will see their influence grow

Paradigms: What are the paradigms behind habit 4?

Common Paradigm- "Scarcity Mentality"- There is only so much, and the more you get, the less there is for me. Highly Effective Paradigm- "Abundance Mentality"- There is plenty out there for everyone, and more to spare.

effectiveness: What does it mean to be effective? What is the foundation of effectiveness?

Communicate clearly, know yourself, listen, have SMART goals, long term thinking(lasting results) a leader that yields positive results that last

Courage and consideration: Define courage and consideration. Why is it important to balance the two in a relationship?

Courage is needed to express and stand by my needs. To openly clearly talk about what do I need in order for me to create a "win". Consideration is needed to be able to listen and truly understand the needs of others. It is important to balance the 2 in a relationship so that way you can stand up for yourself when need be, but also be compassionate towards others in the relationship.

principles: What are the principles of Habit 5

Diagnose before you prescribe, empathetic listening, Seek to understand, etc.

Paradigms: What are the paradigms behind Habit 3?

Do the most important things first. Say no to things that will steer you off course. Effectiveness and efficiency. Importance over urgency. Relationships before schedules.

Empathic listening: What is empathic listening? How and when should you use it?

Empathic listening is a structured listening and questioning technique that allows you to develop and enhance relationships with a stronger understanding of what is being conveyed, both intellectually and emotionally. As such, it takes active listening techniques to a new level. You should use Empathetic listening whenever someone is talking to you about something personal or deep.

Autobiographical responses: Identify the four types of autobiographical responses and how they prevent empathic listening.

Evaluate - Agree to disagree. Probe - Ask questions from your own frame of reference. Advise - Give counsel based on your own experience. Interpret - Explain motives and behavior based on your own motives and behavior.

Principles: What are the principles of Habit 4?

Generosity Cooperation Openness Balance courage and consideration Commit to seek mutual benefits rather than competition.

Paradigms: What are the paradigms behind Habit 1?

I am free to choose and I am ultimately responsible for my happiness

Inside out vs outside in: How do people behave differently when working from inside out vs outside in?

If someone works from outside in, their influence on other people shrinks because they're being reactive and focusing on the things they can't control. If someone works from the inside out their influence grows because they are being proactive and focusing on the things they have control over.

Principles: What are the principle Habit 1 is based on?

People who take... Responsibility for their choices choose your weather use proactive language focus on circle of influence transition person (change from bad to good)

Principle: What is a principle? What are the characteristics of principles?

Principles are universal thoughts that will never change. They are the key ideas of a topic or idea.

Proactive language: Describe what proactive (versus reactive) language is and think of some common examples.

Proactive language allows you to stay in control of the situation and not let the situation define you. Ex; Change "He makes me so mad" to "I will seek to understand his point of view"

Scarcity and abundance: What are examples of a sacrcity mentality? What are examples of an abundance mentality?

Scarcity mentality refers to people seeing life as a finite pie, so that if one person takes a big piece, that leaves less for everyone else. Eg. There is not enough for me, or there is no more left for me because everyone else already jas it.. An abundance mindset refers to the paradigm that there is plenty out there for everybody. Eg. There is plenty to go around, there is fruit for all.

Transition person: What are the characteristics of a transition person? How can you become a transition person?

Some characteristics of a transition person are they are very proactive instead of reactive. They do not seek revenge but instead, they seek forgiveness. You can become a transition person by practicing patience and being proactive.

Habits: Why are the habits sequential?

Start off by working on yourself, end by working with others

3rd alternatives: What is a 3rd alternative? Why are 3rd alternatives important to achieving synergy?

The 3rd alternative is the higher way steps to achieve 3rd alternatives: 1. clarify end of mind, 2. listen to their reviews, 3. share your views, 4.brainstorm, 5. choose the best idea

Maturity continuim: Describe the maturity continum. What is the highest level of effectiveness and why? What are private and public victories?

The highest level is interdependence. Private victories are that of your individual success and public victories are social success and working effectively with others. The maturity continuum shows the habits and how they build upon one another.

Deposits: What behaviors might lead to deposits in Emotional bank accounts?

Understanding the Individual, Keeping Commitments, Clarifying Expectations, Attending to the little things, Showing personal Integrity, Apologizing when we make a withdrawal.

Carry your own weather: What does "carry your own weather" mean? How can you carry your own weather?

When you carry your own weather it means you can stay consistent on how you feel, your day won't change if one thing goes bad. Only you can control how you respond to situations. You can carry your own weather by being proactive rather than reactive and being patient.

Human interaction: Describe the different types of human interaction (i.e, win-lose, lose-win, win-win, etc)

Win lose; you win and someone else's looses or vice versa, loose loose; you both lose in a situation, win win; you both win in a situation.

Win-win agreements: What makes effective win-win agreements?

Win/Win means that agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial, mutually satisfying. With a Win/Win solution, all parties feel good about the decision and feel committed to the action plan. Win/Win sees life as a cooperative, not a competitive arena.

Paradigms: What are the paradigms behind habit 5?

You should have an open mindset, and you should be willing to listen.

Four dimensions: What are the four dimensions? How does a person renew each one?

body: get enough sleep, health, fitness, and goals. heart: keep relationships in constant repair through continual deposits in the emotional bank account of others, value differences, build on strengths, practice empathic listening, widen circle of friends, forgive yourself, forgive others, and build family relationships. mind: keep a journal, seek out interesting ideas, listen to a podcast, develop a hobby, examine your paradigms. spirit: enjoy nature, inspirational literature, music, give time/money/self, and meditate/reflection/inspire

Paradigms: What are the paradigms behind habit 2?

clearly defining my vision and purpose in life will make all the difference

Paradigms: What are the paradigms behind habit 6?

common paradigm: Lets compromise (not synergy) highly effective paradigm: come up with something better than what either of us have

Self Discipline: What is the key to saying "no" to the unimportant, and "yes" to the important?

courage is the KEY

Define outcomes: How might people behave if they used the practice of "defining outcomes before you act"

developing a personal mission statement think about how my choice will impact my future make decisions before emotions are involved

Synergy: What are the conditions necessary for effective synergy? What are the barriers to synergy?

effective synergy - creative cooperation, value differences, take criticism, focus, trust, diversity. barriers to synergy - egos, cliques, prejudice, exclusion, selfishness

Principles: What are the principles of habit 3?

focus integrity discipline priortization

Personal mission statements: What is the value of creating and using a personal mission statement? What are the characteristics of effective personal mission statements?

focuses on what you want to be and do puts your goals in focus plan for success reaffirms who you are moves your ideas into the real world makes you the leader of your own life secures the future for what you invision for yourself

Long term goals: How do you align long term goals with personal mission statements?

identify your personal mission and then set your goals so they will guide you to your mission

What are the benefits of living in quadrant 2?

remain focused on your goals and progress in the things that matter most

Human endowments/gifts: What are the four human endowments/gifts that help someone to be proactive?

self awarness, imagination, conscience, and willpower

valuing differences: why is valuing differences important to achieving synergy?

valuing differences is the foundation of synergy by building on eachothers strengths

Principles: What are the principles of habit 2?

vision commitment purpose