CST 110: Chapter 8

true about arranged marriage

sometimes children are allowed to reject their parents decision, people are expected to marry the person their parents' select

terminating

stage of relationship when it is officially over and partners go their separate ways

stagnating stage

it stops growing and the partners feel as if they are just "going through the motions."

examples of counterproductive criticism

"you are so mean to me" "you don't care about my feelings" "you always have to be right"

social

a commitment to spend time together and get along

legal

a responsibility to provide food and housing their children

emotional

a sense of responsibility for each other's feelings

intensifying

acquaintance to close friends

circumscribing stage

begin to decrease the quality and quantity of their communication with each other. couple avoids dealing with conflicts

they spark dialectical tensions

characteristics of intimate relationships

exclusivity, voluntariness, based on love

common expectation in relationships in the US

segmentation

dealing with each side of tension in separate parts of the relationship

openness vs closedness

desire for disclosure and honesty and the desire to keep certain things private

predictability vs novelty

desire of consistency and desire for fresh experiences

integration

developing behaviors that satisfy both sides of the tension

reaffirmation

embracing the tension between the two sides as a normal part of life

disorientation

ending the relationship in which the tension exists

genetic ties

family members are related "by blood"

balance

finding a middle ground between the two sides of the tension

alternation

going back and forth between the two sides of tension

infidelity

having romantic or sexual interaction with someone outside the romantic relationship, is often an emotionally traumatic experience for the partner who is wronged.

how the conflict is handled by the pair

in terms of conflict, what matters the most to relationships is

discomfirming

messages are behaviors that imply a lack of respect or value for others

differentiating stage

often the first stage in relationship dissolution. view differences as annoying

avoiding stage

physical and emotional distance from each other.

polygamy

practice of having two or more romantic partners at once

monogamy

practicing one relationship at a time and does not have sexual and romantic attachments to others

recalibration

reframing a tension so that the opposition between the two sides disappears

denial

responding to only one side of the tension and ignoring the other

family behavior

roles are patterns of behavior that define a person's function in a group. roles of family members include living together and taking care of each other. many people believe that the role behaviors family members enact are what really define families.

experimenting

stage of relationship where you converse to learn more about the person and decide if you have enough in common to intensify the relationship

placater

term for the person who assumes the job of the peacemaker who goes to any length to reduce conflict?

bonding stage`

the partners make a public announcement of their commitment to each other, partners gain the support and approval of people in their social networks, final stage of relationship development

intimacy

the significant emotional closeness that you experience in a relationship is called

avoiding

the stage when couples create physical and emotional distance either directly or indirectly

hostile couples

they engage is various forms of criticism, conflicts are frequent and intense, use negative emotional displays

partners start to share more intimate information with one another. partners increase their commitment to the relationship. partners move from being acquaintance to being close friends.

true about intensifying stage of the relationship

true

true or false: in some countries, same-sex relationships leads to death penalty if arrested and convicted

autonomy vs connection

wanting to be an individual and desire to be close to others

defensiveness, stonewalling, contempt, criticism that is not constructive

warning signs that conflict in a relationship is not being handled constructively and the relationship my dissolve.

interdependence

what happens to one person affects everyone else in the relationship

integrating, experimenting, initiating, intensifying.

which of the following are stages of relationship developments identified by communication scholar Mark Knapp?

many cultures practice polygamy, culture influences expectations for exclusivity

which of the following statements are true about how culture affects romantic relationships?

integrating is the stage when others begin to see the individuals as a couple, intensifying is the stage when the individuals spend a lot of time together, the first stage is initiating, which is when the two individuals meet for the first time.

which of the following statements are true about stages of development of romantic relationships?

couples that enact 5 positive vs 1 negative messages are the healthiest, 0 positive vs 8 negative are high risk at divorce, disconfirming messages have an elevated risk of divorce

which of the following statements are true about the connection between positivity and divorce?

they require continuous investment

which of the following statements characterize the investment of energies and other resources in an intimate relationship?

intimate

which of the following types of relationship require the deepest commitment?

family stories are: part of a family's collective memory, family roles embody the functions people serve in the family. family rituals have special meaning to family

which of the statement is true about communicating in families?

having realistic expectations will improve communication

which statement is true about expectations in relationships?