CST 110: Chapter 8
true about arranged marriage
sometimes children are allowed to reject their parents decision, people are expected to marry the person their parents' select
terminating
stage of relationship when it is officially over and partners go their separate ways
stagnating stage
it stops growing and the partners feel as if they are just "going through the motions."
examples of counterproductive criticism
"you are so mean to me" "you don't care about my feelings" "you always have to be right"
social
a commitment to spend time together and get along
legal
a responsibility to provide food and housing their children
emotional
a sense of responsibility for each other's feelings
intensifying
acquaintance to close friends
circumscribing stage
begin to decrease the quality and quantity of their communication with each other. couple avoids dealing with conflicts
they spark dialectical tensions
characteristics of intimate relationships
exclusivity, voluntariness, based on love
common expectation in relationships in the US
segmentation
dealing with each side of tension in separate parts of the relationship
openness vs closedness
desire for disclosure and honesty and the desire to keep certain things private
predictability vs novelty
desire of consistency and desire for fresh experiences
integration
developing behaviors that satisfy both sides of the tension
reaffirmation
embracing the tension between the two sides as a normal part of life
disorientation
ending the relationship in which the tension exists
genetic ties
family members are related "by blood"
balance
finding a middle ground between the two sides of the tension
alternation
going back and forth between the two sides of tension
infidelity
having romantic or sexual interaction with someone outside the romantic relationship, is often an emotionally traumatic experience for the partner who is wronged.
how the conflict is handled by the pair
in terms of conflict, what matters the most to relationships is
discomfirming
messages are behaviors that imply a lack of respect or value for others
differentiating stage
often the first stage in relationship dissolution. view differences as annoying
avoiding stage
physical and emotional distance from each other.
polygamy
practice of having two or more romantic partners at once
monogamy
practicing one relationship at a time and does not have sexual and romantic attachments to others
recalibration
reframing a tension so that the opposition between the two sides disappears
denial
responding to only one side of the tension and ignoring the other
family behavior
roles are patterns of behavior that define a person's function in a group. roles of family members include living together and taking care of each other. many people believe that the role behaviors family members enact are what really define families.
experimenting
stage of relationship where you converse to learn more about the person and decide if you have enough in common to intensify the relationship
placater
term for the person who assumes the job of the peacemaker who goes to any length to reduce conflict?
bonding stage`
the partners make a public announcement of their commitment to each other, partners gain the support and approval of people in their social networks, final stage of relationship development
intimacy
the significant emotional closeness that you experience in a relationship is called
avoiding
the stage when couples create physical and emotional distance either directly or indirectly
hostile couples
they engage is various forms of criticism, conflicts are frequent and intense, use negative emotional displays
partners start to share more intimate information with one another. partners increase their commitment to the relationship. partners move from being acquaintance to being close friends.
true about intensifying stage of the relationship
true
true or false: in some countries, same-sex relationships leads to death penalty if arrested and convicted
autonomy vs connection
wanting to be an individual and desire to be close to others
defensiveness, stonewalling, contempt, criticism that is not constructive
warning signs that conflict in a relationship is not being handled constructively and the relationship my dissolve.
interdependence
what happens to one person affects everyone else in the relationship
integrating, experimenting, initiating, intensifying.
which of the following are stages of relationship developments identified by communication scholar Mark Knapp?
many cultures practice polygamy, culture influences expectations for exclusivity
which of the following statements are true about how culture affects romantic relationships?
integrating is the stage when others begin to see the individuals as a couple, intensifying is the stage when the individuals spend a lot of time together, the first stage is initiating, which is when the two individuals meet for the first time.
which of the following statements are true about stages of development of romantic relationships?
couples that enact 5 positive vs 1 negative messages are the healthiest, 0 positive vs 8 negative are high risk at divorce, disconfirming messages have an elevated risk of divorce
which of the following statements are true about the connection between positivity and divorce?
they require continuous investment
which of the following statements characterize the investment of energies and other resources in an intimate relationship?
intimate
which of the following types of relationship require the deepest commitment?
family stories are: part of a family's collective memory, family roles embody the functions people serve in the family. family rituals have special meaning to family
which of the statement is true about communicating in families?
having realistic expectations will improve communication
which statement is true about expectations in relationships?