Question 5: Triangular Theory of Love

What are the IPC levels for C? Draw appropriate triangle.

Intimacy: + Passion: + Commitment: +

What are the IPC levels for R? Draw appropriate triangle.

Intimacy: + Passion: + Commitment: -

What are the IPC levels for C? Draw appropriate triangle.

Intimacy: + Passion: - Commitment: +

What are the IPC levels for L? Draw appropriate triangle.

Intimacy: + Passion: - Commitment: -

What are the IPC levels for F? Draw appropriate triangle.

Intimacy: - Passion: + Commitment: +

What are the IPC levels for I? Draw appropriate triangle.

Intimacy: - Passion: + Commitment: -

What are the IPC levels for E? Draw appropriate triangle.

Intimacy: - Passion: - Commitment: +

What are the IPC levels for N? Draw appropriate triangle.

Intimacy: - Passion: - Commitment: -

What does Never Live In Empty Romance, Cause F*** Crying (NLIERCFC) an anagram for?

Non-loving, Liking, Infatuation, Empty love, Romantic love, Companionate love, Fatuous love, and Consummate love

Sternberg (1986)

The Triangular Theory of Love. Sternberg believed that love is a triad of intimacy, passion and commitment. Some combination of the three, but in various shapes for different people (signifying amount of love), and certainly not equal in all three parts (some can have more intimacy than passion and commitment for example). Matching in the shapes of the triangles rather than the size of them is a better predictor of successful couplehood. It's is not necessarily the amount of love that is present in a relationship, but the type.

passion

is a state of intense longing for a union with another person. Leads to physical arousal. Is an expression of desire and needs for self-esteem, nurturement, affiliation, dominance, submission, and sexual fulfillment. Passion is not just about sex, can be a passion for a shared interest etc. A paradox of passion, is that intimacy can hinder passion due to hindering the relationship. Sterngerg used the example of people cheating on their partners, due to an inability to admit to a certain kink or fetish, once again they had too much to lose. You can also not sustain passion at all times, because it it exhausting and unpractical. Better to be experienced intermittently and "unscheduled".

intimacy

often begins with disclosure, is built on a foundation of personal knowledge, which leads to a desire to promote the welfare of the other. You are happy with them, build a close rapport with them, and hold them in high regard despite their flaws. You count on them in times of need, and they can count on you as well. You are able to share yourself and your possessions with them, "what's mine is yours". You receive emotional support from them, and in turn desire to support them emotionally. Communication is easy, through talking, touching, writing, or over the phone. One paradox, is that it may be easier sometimes to talk about something with a stoeger than the one you love, because you have less to lose.

commitment

which is perhaps the most cognitive component. It is a decision, which can be simple or difficult, which implies short or long term commitment. Commitment is made through making plans, talking, thinking about them, and wanting them to be in your life.