Sexual Decision Making

Step 1: Identify my choices Step 2: Understand the Consequenecs (both positive and negative) Step 3: Decide what I Care about (what is important to me) Step 4: Carry out my decision Step 5: Communicate my decision to others.

5C's of Decision making wfw

Some people think that most 9th graders have had sex. Actually, the majority of 9th graders have not had sex. Over 60% of 9th graders in Boston have never had sexual intercourse

9th graders facts wfw

You may have heard the term "abstinence" to describe not having sex. In PHE, we will not use the term abstinence. Instead, we will just say "not having sex."

Abstinence? wfw

Both young men and young women can make their own decision about whether or not to have sex; in deciding whether or not to have sex, a personc an follow the 5 Cs to identify their choices, understand the consequences of each choice, decide what they care about, carry out their decision, and communicate it to others; a person can choose to say no to sex or any other sexual activity at any time, whether or not they have engaged in sexual activity in the past; a person can effectively refuse sex by saying what they mean, using examples, and repeating themselves in a different way

Concluding messages: SDM wfw

Experiencing the pleasure of sex Pregnancy Might regret having sex Giving and receiving STIs Sharing love with a partner

Consequences of having sex

Waiting to feel emotionally ready No pregnancy without vaginal sex STI transmission is unlikely Won't experience the pleasure of sex Feeling peer/partner pressure to have sex

Consequences of not having sex

There are many reasons why a teen might choose to have sex or not have sex. A person should think about the consequences of each choice and what they care about before making decisions about any kind of sex.

Deciding whether to have sex wfw (many reasons, consequences)

We're including activities that are not defined as sex because a person can engage in these intimate activities without putting themselves at risk for pregnancy and most STIs.

Including activities not defined as sex wfw

Today's workshop will be about sexual decision-making, or how to make decisions about sex and other sexual activity. Like all PHE workshops, we will not be telling you what to do or not to do. Instead, we will give you the knowledge and skills related to sexual decision -making so that you can make your own decision about what is right for you.

Intro Statement wfw

Ways to listen effectively

Making eye contact Waiting to speak until the other person has finished Asking questions to clarify what the other person means

Both young men and young women can make their own decision about whether or not to have sex. It doesnt matter whether a person is male or female, or has had sex before or not. Teenagers can always make their own decisions about sex.

Male vs. Female deciding to have sex wfw

Not having sex is the only 100% effective way to prevent giving or getting STIs. Not having vaginal sex is the only 100% effective way to prevent pregnancy.

Not having sex statement wfw

In PHE, when we talk about genitals, we mean a person's external organs of reproduction. For men, this includes the penis and the scrotum. For women, this includes the vulva (the vaginal opening, the clitoris, the urethra, the labia, and the mons pubis).

PHE Definition of genitals wfw

PHE defines sex as having oral, anal, or vaginal sex or genital-to-genital contact (when one person's genitals touch another person's genitals)

PHE Definition of sex wfw

PHE's mission is to give teenagers the knowledge and skills they need to make healthy decisions. We do this by training college students to teach health workshops in public high schools.

PHE Mission wfw

PHE defines not having sex as not having oral, anal, or vaginal sex or genital-to-genital contact. A person can choose to say no to sex or any other sexual activity at any time, whether or not they have engaged in sexual activity in the past.

PHE Not having sex definition wfw

Sexual Decision-Making, Pregnancy Prevention, STIs and HIV, Healthy Relationships, Abusive Relationships, Rape and Sexual Assault, Tobacco, Alcohol, Drugs, Nutrition and Physical Activity, Mental Health, Decision Making and Communication I, Decision Making and Communication II

PHE Workshops (order doesn't matter)

We will only use PHE terms for anatomy (for example, penis and vagina) and sexual activities (for example, hand-to-genital contact). We will not use slang terms.

PHE policy on terms wfw

As you can see, 6 out of 10 of these 9th graders are colored blue. This shows you what 60% looks like, so you can see how many 9th graders have not had sex.

Peer norms - Not had sex Card wfw

Ways to speak effectively

Saying what they mean Using examples to illustrate their point Repeating themselves in a different way until their message is heard

Sex means different things to different people When it is important to the discussion, PHE Health Educators will be clear about what kind of sex they are talking about

Sex/Not Sex answers wfw

What does it mean to have sex? What does it mean to not have sex?

Sex/Not Sex questions wfw

Teen fathers may be required to pay child support if they are not in custody of the child

Teen fathers and child support

STIs are sexually transmitted infections. STIs are any infection that can be acquired as a result of having sex, which PHE defines as oral, anal, or vaginal se or genital-to-genital contact, with an infected person.

What is an STI? wfw

1. Intro 2. What is sex? What does it mean to not have sex? 3. How can a person decide whether or not to have sex? 4. Why can it be difficult for a teenager to make decisions about whether or not to have sex? 5. How can a person talk with a partner about sex? 6. Conclusion

Workshop Outline