COMM. CH.9 ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS
What is the difference between liking and loving?
Liking is a feeling of affection and respect that we typically have for our friends. Loving is a deeper and more intense emotional experience consisting of intimacy, caring, and attachment.
bonding stage?
Marriage/ other formal commitment
Factors influencing attraction; What is the basis of equity in a relationship? What is the opposite of equity?
The balance of benefits and costs exchanged by partners is equal. inequity
Which effect is the beautiful-is-good-effect related to?
The halo effect
Key element of romantic relationships; communication?
There must be talking in the relationship
What is the definition of wedging in relevance to the dark side of romantic relationships?
Using online communication to come between 2 romantic partners
Key element of romantic relationships; Tensions? What must we arrange? and examples
We must arrange relational dialects; openness vs protection, novelty vs predictability
Factors influencing attraction; role of reciprocal liking?
We tend to be attracted to people who are attracted to us
Factors influencing attraction; How does proximity influence attraction?
We tend to be in romantic relationships with those near us
Factors influencing attraction; What role does similarity play in attraction? and what is this effect called?
We're attracted to those we perceive as similar to ourselves. Birds-of-a-feather-effect
Factors influencing attraction; importance of resources? and what major theory is behind this?
We're drawn to those offering benefits with few associated costs. The social exchange theory
What is the mere exposure effect?
You're more likely to be attracted to people who you are around a lot.
Initiating stage?
assess others' attractiveness/ availability
stagnating stage?
communication slows to a standstill; tense and awkward
Which type of love is common in long-term relationships?
companionate love.
Maintenance strategies; social networks?
involve yourself with partners' family and friends
What are the two types of romantic love?
passionate love and companionate love.
Which type of love is integrally linked for sexual desire in adults? (being IN love)
passionate love.
Maintenance strategies; assurances?
reminders of devotion; "I'll always love you"
differentiating stage?
small fights; differences are highlighted
Maintenance strategies; self-disclosure?
sharing thoughts, feelings, and fears
What are the four factors to predict whether to maintain a relationship?
1) degree to which you feel in love, 2) equity within the relationship, 3) similarity between partners, 4) Network support from family and friends
What is the ideal combination in terms of liking and loving for long term success?
Both partners like and love each other.
Key element of romantic relationships; perception?
Both partners must perceive their bond as romantic; must DTR
Key element of romantic relationships; commitment?
Have an attachment and an intention to continue the relationship
What was the major finding from Duton and Aron's "Bridge experiment"
Our bodies tend to confuse different types of arousal. Higher arousal = higher attraction. When actually experiencing physiological responses related to fear, people mislabel those responses as romantic arousal. This was interpreted by the researchers to mean that the men found the woman more attractive when they had more anxiety about crossing the bridge.
Maintenance strategies; positivity?
be cheerful and romantic; most important
Factors influencing attraction; What is the beautiful-is-good-effect?
beautiful people are seen as competent, intelligent, and well adjusted.
Key element of romantic relationships; diversity?
different people, same feelings; place the same degree of importance on the relationship
What are the 5 stages of coming apart?
differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, avoiding, and terminating
avoiding stage?
distancing yourself physically
experimenting stage?
flirting; casual dating
agape lovers?
forgiving lovers; unconditional, selfless
Storge lovers?
friendly lovers; rooted in friendship, stable
ludus lovers?
game-playing lovers; players, uncommitted fun
Maintenance strategies; sharing tasks?
helping each other out with responsibilities
intensifying stage?
infatuation stage, self-disclosure, cuddling, "We"
What are the 5 stages of coming together?
initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, bonding
What is passionate love and how is it related to relationship duration?
intense emotional and physical longing for union with one another. negatively; passion fades!
What is companionate love defined by?
intense form of liking defined by: EMOTIONAL INVESTMENT and DEEPLY INTERTWINED LIVES
integrating stage?
leave stuff at each others' place, "us", Sex
Maintenance strategies; relationship talks?
make time to discuss the relationship and really listen
What type of betrayal to men and women each view as worse?
men = physical infidelity women = emotional infidelity
What is relational intrusion?
monitoring/ controlling of partner; invasion of privacy
mania lovers?
obsessive lovers; crazy, intense
pragma lovers?
practical lovers; planners, logical
eros lovers?
romantic lovers; starry-eyed, idealistic
circumscribing stage?
spend less time talking; ignore differences
terminating stage?
stay friends or end contact
What are the 6 types of romantic love? (SAMPLE)
storge, agape, mania, pragma, ludus, eros
Maintenance strategies; acceptance?
support and forgiveness; accept who they are and forgive their flaws
Key element of romantic relationships; choice?
we choose our partners
In terms of physical attractiveness, how is the term 'matching' relevant?
we tend to form long-term relationships with people who are similar to us in physical attractiveness