Interpersonal Communication
Preoccupied Individuals
want intimacy and fear being alone
Gender Differences
Adrogynous - men and women who behave both masculine and feminine - Females who play traditional roles are more into macho guys
Reinforcement Model
Byrnes - attracted to similar others because they reinforce our view of the world as the correct perspective - people don't like when people challenge their attitudes
Personal Qualities
Framework for understanding attraction. personality, interpersonal needs, expectations, self-esteem, physical appearance, etc.
Other's Personal Qualities
Framework for understanding attraction. personality, needs, expectations, appearance, etc.
Burleson - Similarities
Good communicators are attracted to good communicators, poor communicators are attracted to poor communicators
Social Networks
If you meet someone you wana date, and your friends all say how wonderful she is, you'll be more attractive
Attitudinal Similarity
Many relationships form because of shared attitudes and beliefs - many find they have different likes and dislikes though
Sex Differences
Men are attracted to looks more than women.
Halo Effect 2
People associate good looks with a plethora of other positive qualities. What is beautiful is good - people believe hot people are more likely to be successful - offers the "complete package"
Self-Esteem
Those who have high ___ are more attracted to those who also have ___
"Hard-to-get"
Those who play hard to get are more attractive - has its benefits cut can be bad if they are viewed as unattainable
subjective norms
attitudes of members in our social circle
Growth Beliefs
based on the belief that impressions of others evolve over time, and that people and relationships grow when faced with challenges.
Destiny Beliefs
based on the idea that first impressions of others are fixed and enduring, and that people cannot change
Secure Individuals
comfortable alone and in relationships
Reinforcement Affect Model
certain types of environments make people feel certain ways. Soft music, walls, chairs often relaxes people - people unconsciously associate the feelings in the environment with the people there
Relational Attraction
desire to have an intimate relationship with a person
Task Attraction
desire to work with someone to fulfill instrumental goals
Koinophilia
faces are rated as more attractive when they have average features, with studies showing that a computer composite of multiple faces is perceived as more attractive than any single face
Fearful Avoidant Individuals
fear intimacy and lack self-confidence
Assimilation Effect
if you hangout with more attractive people, you are thought to be more attractive - some attention attractive people get spills over
Complementarity
liking and attraction is linked to behavior and resources, not attitudes and values
Physical Environment
location, size, temperature, public vs. private setting, etc.
Physical Attraction
looks, eyes, body, hair, attire
The Skill as a Culture
low skill communicators may be practicing skills the two partners think is competent
The Sour Grapes Explanation
low skill communicators might be attracted to high skill people but feel they are out of their reach
The Ignorance is Explanation
low skill people not always aware the people communicate better than they do. Since they communicate with similar others, they have low skill interactions
Reward Value
most powerful influence on attraction. Companionship, sex, fun, financial resources.
Fatal Attraction
occurs when very qualities that draw us to someone eventually contribute to our breakup - she is driven, she works too much
Interaction Appearance Theory
people are seen as more physically attractive if there are shared warm positive interactions
Excitation Transfer
people experience arousal together and mistake the feelings for excitment
Halo Effect
perceive physically attractive people as more sociable
Narcissism
personality trait that involves a pattern of grandiosity, self-focus, and self-importance
Types of Attraction
physically, sexually, intellectually, or relationally
Chemical Attraction
physiological and neurological aspects of the attraction process - OT (oxytocin) attraction chemical "the hormone of love"
Expectations
play a major role in the attraction process. Influence our perceptions of reward value. If ___ behavior is rewarding, it is likely to be more rewarding.
Dismissive Individuals
prefer to be alone and are unmotivated to develop and maintain new relationships
Attachment Style
reflect how people view themselves and their relationships with others. Four attachment styles....
Sexual Attraction
reflects the desire to engage in sex with someone - feelings of sexual arousal in the presence of someone
Qualities that Reflect Chemistry
similarities and differences that emerge when the two are together
Differential Importance Explanation
since low skill people do not communicate often, they may not be looking for a high skill partner
Physical Attractiveness
strong jawline, broad shoulders, tall men - soft jaw, hour glass shape women
Matching Hypothesis
the tendency to be attracted to people who are similar to us in physical attractiveness
Social Attraction
would like to "hangout" or be friends with someone.