0530 Final Exam

Obstacles to Communicating Emotions Effectively

-cultural and social expectations, self-protection, protecting others, social and professional roles

Communication Patterns (Family)

Consensual- high conversation and higher conformity Pluralistic- high conversation, low conformity Protective- avoid conflict Laisses-faire- parents and kids of limited interaction

Guidelines for Communication

Dual Perspectives, Safer Sex, Manage Conflict, Adapt Communication for Long Distance

Primary Style of Loving

Eros-powerful and passionate and sudden Storge- comfortable, even-keeled, based on friendship Ludus- playful love

Stages of Family Life Cycle

Establish Family, enlarging family, developing, launching children, post-launching children retirement

Responses to conflict

Exit- physically leave, loyalty- stay committed, neglect-deny problems, voice-talk it out

Interpersonal Conflict

Expressed tension between people who are interdependent, perceive they have incompatible goals, and feel a need to resolve those differences

Social Penetration Theory

Intimacy grows as interaction between people penetrates from outer to inner layers of each other's personalities

Factors for Sustaining Relationships

Investment, Trust, Commitment, Comfort With Relational Dialectics

Guidelines for Family Communication

Maintain Equity, Make daily choices to enhance intimacy, respect and consideration, don-t sweat small stuff

Secondary Styles of Loving

Pragma- practical love, Mania- eros +ludis, from the gods Agape-storge+eros, love without exceptions

3 levels of confirmation and disconfirmation

Recognition, Acknowledgment, Endorsement

Expectations for Friendships

Support, Willingness to Invest, Trust, Acceptance, Emotional Closeness

Separation

assign 1 need to certain spheres of interaction

Key Dimensions To Family Style

conversation orientation- open/closed communication conformity orientation- adherence to family hierarchy

Social Media and Friendships

cyberbullying

Framing Rules

define the emotional meaning of situations

selection

give priority to 1 need

Orientations to Conflict

lose-lose, win-lose, win-win

Diverse Families

marrying later, same sex, foreign partners...

recognition , acknowledgment, endorsement

most basic(recognize they exist), 2nd level (acknowledge what they think and feel), strongest(accepting the other's feelings)

Neutralization

negotiate balance between 2 needs

Reframing

redefine contradictory need

Definition of Internal Tensions

relationship stresses that grow out of people and their interactions

Romantic Relationships

relationships between individuals who assume that they will be primary and continuing parts of each other's lives

interactive view of emotions

social rules and understandings shape what people feel and how they do or don't express their feelings

Ineffective Expression of Emotions

speaking in generalities, not owning feelings, counterfeit emotional language

Appraisal Theory(perceptual view of emotions)

subjective perceptions shape what external phenomena mean to us

Emotion Work

the effort to generate what we think are appropriate feelings in particular situations

Dimensions of Romantic Relationships

1. Passion 2. Commitment 3. Intimacy

3 key rules of interactive view of emotions

Framing Rules, Feeling Rules, Emotion Work

How friendships develop

Growth Stages-polite and not too personal Deterioration- When friends stop investing

3 Phases of Romantic Relationships

Growth, Navigation, Deterioration

4 ways to negotiate dialectical tensions

Neutralization, Selection, Separation, Reframing

Emotions

Our experience and interpretation that are shaped by physiology, perceptions, language, and social experiences.

organismic view of emotions

The theory that external phenomena cause physiological changes that lead us to experience emotions. Also called the James-Lange view of emotions.

3 Elements for Relationship Satisfaction

Words, Thoughts, emotions

Communication Conflict Patterns (unproductive)

early stages-sets the stage Middle Stages- kitchen-sinking, interruptions Later stages- metacommunication, counter proposals

Feeling Rules

what we have a right to feel or what we are expected to feel in particular situations